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48 - Reiki Energy and Financial Empowerment During Divorce with Heather Reeves, CDFA

Episode 48: Reiki Energy + Financial Empowerment During Divorce (with Heather Reeves, CDFA)
Episode snapshot
In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with returning guest (and friend) Heather Reeves—a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)—for a conversation that blends energy healing with practical money strategy. Together, they explore how Reiki can help regulate the nervous system during divorce, and why emotional steadiness is often the missing link to making smart financial decisions.
Today’s opening affirmation
“As we relinquish the negative suppressed feelings from all the programs we have internalized, they’re automatically replaced by higher ones… When our inner feelings are peacefulness, serenity, tranquility, stillness, openness, and simplicity, the effect on others is to increase their awareness… and to give them a greater sense of freedom, perfection, unity, and at oneness with ourselves.”
What you’ll hear in this episode
What Reiki is (and why it’s not as “woo woo” as people think)
Heather’s story: finding Reiki during her divorce and feeling immediate relief
Reiki as universal life force energy + how a Reiki Master acts as a channel
Why divorce dysregulation (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) can make people avoid finances entirely
How Reiki can support:
stress + anxiety reduction
physical pain relief
emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual healing
The 5 Reiki principles and how they apply to divorce (including being kind to yourself—and yes, even your ex)
In-person vs remote Reiki (and what a session actually feels like)
Why “I just want to be done” can be a red flag when it’s coming from fear
The confidence shift: moving from fear → neutral → informed → decisive
How Heather blends her CDFA work with nervous system support—so clients can think clearly about money
Why a CDFA + mediator can be a cost-effective team versus litigation + forensic accounting (when appropriate)
The importance of budgets, disclosures, and not double-counting expenses
Special note: why finances can be extra nuanced when one spouse is self-employed
A local Orange County wellness event announcement featuring Reiki, breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath
Powerful takeaways
You don’t need to be “spiritual” to benefit from Reiki—what matters is willingness and consent.
If you’re dysregulated, it’s harder to:
read documents
engage in discovery
negotiate fairly
understand options
advocate for yourself
Financial empowerment in divorce isn’t about power over your spouse—it’s power from within.
The divorce process is often a business unwinding, and calming your nervous system can help you participate instead of freeze.
Reiki 101 (quick explainer)
Reiki = “universal life force energy.”A Reiki Master doesn’t “take” your energy or force anything—Heather describes it as intelligent energy that flows where it’s needed. Sessions can be hands-on or hands-off, and can be done remotely with similar impact.
What you might experience:
deep relaxation (many people fall asleep)
tingling sensations
seeing colors/lights behind closed eyes
emotional release
increased clarity in the days after (journal + notice dreams/insights)
Heather’s beginner suggestion:Try once a week for 4 weeks to feel the shift and allow time for integration.
Event mention
Heather shares an upcoming women’s wellness event focused on alignment:
Date: March 8, 2026
Location: Costa Mesa, CA (at Enjoy Yoga)
Modalities offered: Reiki (Heather), breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath
About Heather Reeves
Heather is a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). She supports clients through the financial realities of divorce—budgeting, strategy, proposal analysis, tax implications, and long-term planning—while also integrating tools that help clients stay regulated and grounded during an emotionally charged process.
Resources & links (for show notes)
Melissa / High Vibe Divorce + High Vibe Mediation: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce https://www.highvibemediation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/highvibemediation/ 
Heather Reeves: https://www.coachingwithorigin.com/ https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithorigin/ 
Event info: (add registration link once posted)
Listener reminder
If this episode helped you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need a little grounding and support. Divorce can feel isolating—let’s keep the conversation going.
Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

47 - Recenter Anywhere (Even During Divorce) Using Breathwork with Sheila Stephens, PA

Episode 47 — Recenter Anywhere (Even During Divorce) Using Breathwork with Sheila Stephens, PA
Guest: Sheila Stephens, PA – Physician Assistant, Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach, and Founder of Recenter Anywhere
In this episode, Melissa sits down with Sheila Stephens, a physician assistant turned breathwork and wellness coach, to explore how simple, accessible breathing and mindfulness practices can help you stay grounded—especially during emotionally charged life transitions like divorce.
Melissa and Sheila met at a women’s wellness event in Orange County and instantly connected over their shared belief that healing tools should be practical, affordable, and available to real people in real life. Sheila now offers personalized, one-on-one virtual breathwork sessions, creating custom recordings clients can use anytime they need to recenter.
Together, they dive into:
What “breathwork” actually means—and why it’s more than just deep breathing
How breathwork and meditation work together to calm the nervous system
Why so many of us discover these tools during moments of crisis
The difference between calming vs. activating breath techniques
Simple practices you can use anywhere—at your desk, in your car, or even in a convention center
How these tools help you respond instead of react during conflict
Why meditation isn’t about stopping your thoughts (and never was)
How consistent practice creates space between triggers and reactions
Using breath and mindfulness to reconnect with intuition during big life decisions
Letting go of perfection and embracing “healthy-ish” habits that actually stick
This conversation is especially powerful for anyone navigating divorce, grief, anxiety, or overwhelm. Sheila explains how breathwork can help you come back into your body, quiet the mental noise, and find safety within yourself—no matter what’s happening around you.
Melissa also shares her own experience using breathwork in high-stress environments, from law school to the bar exam, and how these practices support emotional regulation during divorce.
Mantra from the Episode
“Letting go is like the sudden cessation of an inner pressure or the dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with increased happiness and freedom.”
About Sheila
Sheila Stephens is a Physician Assistant and Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach. Through her business, Recenter Anywhere, she helps overthinkers who feel drained, anxious, or stuck find clarity, momentum, and sustainable “healthy-ish” habits—without rigid rules or one-size-fits-all solutions. Her signature one-on-one sessions provide customized breathwork and meditation recordings clients can use anytime they need to reset.
Connect with Sheila
Website: recenteranywhere.com
Instagram: @recenter_anywhere
Connect with Melissa + High Vibe Divorce
Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce
Melissa / High Vibe Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation
Website: highvibemediation.com
If you’re in the midst of divorce or feeling overwhelmed by life’s transitions, this episode offers gentle, practical tools to help you breathe, pause, and come back to yourself—anytime, anywhere.

46 - Spiritual Insights for Your Divorce Journey with Alexandra Shelly, The Modern Medium

🎙️ Episode 46
Spiritual Insights for Your Divorce Journey with Alexandra Shelly, The Modern Medium
Episode Overview
In this deeply soulful and expansive conversation, Melissa is joined by psychic medium and spiritual guide Alexandra Shelly, host of Embody Your Soul and known online as The Modern Medium. Together, they explore how divorce—like death, illness, and other major life transitions—can become a powerful gateway to awakening, alignment, and transformation.
Alexandra demystifies intuition, spirit guides, and “the Clairs,” offering grounded, accessible ways to understand spiritual connection without bypassing the human experience. This episode invites listeners to see divorce not only as an ending, but as an initiation—an opportunity to reconnect with your authentic self, your higher wisdom, and the unseen support that surrounds you.
Whether you’re brand new to spirituality or already walking a conscious path, this episode is a gentle reminder that you are never alone—and that magic is always available if you’re willing to notice it.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Why divorce, grief, and “dark” seasons often catalyze the greatest spiritual growth
How Alexandra defines intuition as your most authentic self
The difference between asking for “signs” and learning to trust your inner knowing
An introduction to the Clairs (claircognizance, clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, and more)
How to begin connecting with your spirit team—even if you’re brand new
Why intention is the doorway to spiritual connection
How signs can show up in everyday life (feathers, numbers, songs, synchronicities)
The power of choosing to see life as magical
Why grounding, embodiment, and presence are essential during emotional upheaval
How spirituality can restore trust in yourself during divorce
Key Takeaways
Intuition is your North Star. It’s not mystical or elite—it’s your truest self guiding you home.
Spirit doesn’t take away your autonomy. Your guides illuminate; you steer the ship.
You don’t need to be “woo” to be connected. Spirituality can be simple, embodied, and human.
Divorce is an initiation. It’s ego death—and rebirth.
You are never alone. Support exists beyond what you can see.
You get to choose magic. You can live as if everything is a miracle.
Trust builds confidence. Every time you honor a sign, you strengthen your inner knowing.
A High Vibe Reflection
“You can live as if nothing is a miracle, or you can live as if everything is a miracle.”
Divorce can feel isolating, destabilizing, and overwhelming. But what if it’s also an invitation—to trust yourself, to reconnect with something greater, and to remember who you really are?
About Our Guest
Alexandra Shelly is a psychic medium, Reiki practitioner, death doula, tarot reader, and host of the Embody Your Soul podcast. Known as The Modern Medium, Alexandra helps people connect with their spirit team, intuition, and higher self in grounded, empowering ways.
She offers:
Psychic mediumship sessions
Remote and in-person Reiki
Death doula services
Tarot readings
Spiritual mentorship
Alexandra is based in Orange County, California and works with clients worldwide.
Find Alexandra:
Instagram: @themodernmedium_
Podcast: Embody Your Soul
Website: themodernmedium.com
Also on TikTok & Threads
Stay Connected with High Vibe Divorce
🌐 Website: highvibemediation.com
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce/
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Until next time,Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

45 - Attorney Kimberly Keen on Balancing Litigation and Amicable Resolutions in Divorce

🎙️ High Vibe Divorce Podcast
Episode 45 – Attorney Kimberly Keen on Balancing Litigation and Amicable Resolutions in DivorceGuest: Kimberly Keen, Divorce Attorney (San Diego, CA)
🌟 Episode Overview
In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with Southern California divorce attorney Kimberly Keen for a refreshingly honest and grounded conversation about what it really means to practice family law with integrity.
Kim shares her practical, big-picture approach to divorce—one that prioritizes long-term outcomes, emotional wellbeing, and healthy co-parenting over courtroom theatrics. Together, Melissa and Kim explore:
When litigation is actually necessary
How court filings can be used strategically without escalating conflict
Why settlement is almost always the endgame
The value of mediation paired with consulting attorneys
How to choose the right divorce attorney
Red flags to watch for when hiring counsel
The importance of mental health, support, and joy during divorce
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce who wants clarity, empowerment, and a more peaceful path forward.
💡 Key Takeaways
Family law isn’t a zero-sum game. Winning a hearing can still cost you years of co-parenting harmony.
Litigation isn’t the enemy. It can be a strategic tool—used to preserve rights, create leverage, and protect your future.
Most cases settle. Whether through mediation or negotiation, resolution is usually the destination.
Mediation works best with support. Having a consulting attorney alongside a skilled mediator leads to stronger, more enforceable agreements.
Choose an attorney with integrity. Beware of guarantees and “we’ll fight for everything” promises—they often create unrealistic expectations.
Personality fit matters. You need an attorney you trust to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard.
Divorce is emotional. Therapy, support systems, nature, and moments of joy are not luxuries—they’re essential.
You deserve honesty. A great attorney will help you understand risks, not just sell you hope.
🧘‍♀️ Wellness Wisdom from Kim
Get support—therapy or a trusted person to talk to
Spend time in nature
Try meditation or yoga
Let yourself have fun
Make room for joy, even in the middle of hard things
Divorce is stressful, but life doesn’t stop. You’re allowed to laugh, rest, and feel good again.
👩‍⚖️ About the Guest
Kimberly Keen is a divorce attorney based in San Diego, California, known for her practical, empathetic, and settlement-minded approach to family law. She serves clients throughout Southern California, including San Diego, Orange County, Riverside, and San Bernardino.
TikTok: @kimkdivorcelawyer
Website: enrightlawapc.com
🌈 About the Host
Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, guiding people through divorce with clarity, compassion, and a belief that this transition can be transformative.
Website: highvibemediation.com
Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce and @HighVibeMediation
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it. Divorce can be isolating—let’s keep the conversation going.
Until next time:Keep the vibes high and the conflict low. 💛

44 - Financial and Emotional Wellbeing in Gray Divorce with Andrew Hatherley CDFA

🎙️ High Vibe Divorce | Episode 44
Financial & Emotional Wellbeing in Gray Divorce
with Andrew Hatherley, CDFA
Divorce later in life comes with unique financial, emotional, and psychological challenges—and in this episode, we unpack all of them with clarity, compassion, and wisdom.
Melissa is joined by Andrew Hatherley, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), financial advisor, author, and host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. Together, they explore how gray divorce (typically age 50+) requires a more intentional, educated, and team-based approach—especially when retirement, Social Security, healthcare, and long-term financial security are on the line.
Andrew brings both professional expertise and lived experience, having gone through his own gray divorce at age 52. This conversation blends practical financial strategy with emotional resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven rebuilding, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce later in life—or supporting someone who is.
✨ In This Episode, We Discuss:
What qualifies as gray divorce and why divorce rates are rising fastest among adults 65+
Why financial decisions in later-life divorce carry greater long-term impact
The importance of working with a CDFA alongside a mediator, attorney, and therapist
How fear (not fairness) often drives poor divorce decisions—and how to interrupt it
Why older divorcees must understand:
Retirement accounts & tax implications
Spousal support sustainability
Social Security timing
Medicare and health insurance planning
The critical role of budgeting and net-worth tracking after divorce
Why “your brother-in-law or girlfriends” are not your financial advisors 😉
How mediation and amicable divorce models reduce fear, cost, and emotional damage
Why contentment—not constant happiness—is the real post-divorce goal
Andrew’s personal post-divorce practices:
Meditation and mindfulness
Physical health and movement
Nature, fasting, and sleep hygiene
Public speaking and confidence-building through Toastmasters
How being a helper—and getting out of your own head—can be deeply healing after divorce
Why a team-based divorce approach is often less expensive than litigation alone
🧠 Key Takeaways
Gray divorce requires education, intention, and professional support
Financial clarity creates emotional stability
Fear thrives in isolation—community and guidance dissolve it
You can rebuild financially, emotionally, and spiritually at any age
Divorce can be a powerful catalyst for growth, service, and purpose
👥 About the Guest
Andrew Hatherley is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, financial advisor, author, and the host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. He specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate the financial complexities of divorce later in life, with a focus on long-term security, education, and peace of mind.
Andrew is also a member of the Amicable Divorce Network, a vetted group of settlement-minded professionals committed to reducing conflict and cost in divorce.
🔗 Resources & Links
🌐 Websites:
https://transcendretirement.net
https://wiserdivorcesolutions.com
🎧 Podcast:
The Gray Divorce Podcast (available on all major platforms)
📘 Free Resource:
Reach out to Andrew at andrew@wiserdivorcesolutions.com to receive his 12-page white paper on the finances of gray divorce
📖 Book Contribution:
Divorce Amicably (published by the Amicable Divorce Network)
💛 About the Host
Melissa Wheeler-Farag is a family law mediator, attorney, and the host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Through mediation, education, and conscious conversation, she helps clients move through divorce with clarity, empowerment, and intention—believing that divorce is not a failure, but an opportunity for transformation.
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Divorce can feel isolating—but it doesn’t have to be.Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

43 - Redefining Divorce: Power Moves and Emotional Mastery with Meagan Norris

Redefining Divorce: Power Moves & Emotional Mastery
with Meagan Norris
Divorce doesn’t have to be something you merely survive—it can be the most powerful initiation of your life.
In this expansive and deeply honest conversation, Melissa sits down with former attorney turned wealth, power, and divorce mentor Meagan Norris to explore how divorce can become a strategic power move rather than a breaking point. Together, they dive into emotional mastery, money mindset, authenticity, and the spiritual dimensions of transformation—without bypassing the very real grief and complexity of divorce.
This episode is for anyone who wants to move through divorce with sovereignty, clarity, and self-trust—while building a life that feels aligned, abundant, and true.
In This Episode, We Explore:
Why divorce can be a vehicle for transformation, not failure
How to alchemize grief, anger, and fear into emotional power
The role of authenticity (not positivity) in true healing
Why suppressing emotions prolongs conflict—legally and energetically
How mindset and expectations can escalate or de-escalate divorce conflict
What “sacred selfishness” really means during divorce and parenting
Quantum leaping, emotional resilience, and collapsing old timelines
Why women are conditioned to fear money—and why that must change
Financial sovereignty as a core pillar of post-divorce empowerment
Letting the old life fall away so something better can emerge
Key Themes & Takeaways
Divorce as InitiationDivorce often brings ego death—and that’s not a failure. It’s the gateway to profound self-knowledge, emotional maturity, and alignment.
Feel to HealHigh-vibe doesn’t mean bypassing pain. Feeling grief, anger, and despair—without reactivity—is where real power lives.
Authenticity Is the Highest VibrationYou don’t need to “feel good” to heal. You need to feel honest. Authentic emotion is more transformative than forced positivity.
Money Is Neutral—and PowerfulMoney amplifies who you already are. Financial sovereignty allows women to parent from stability, choice, and abundance—not fear.
Your New Life Will Cost You Your Old OneTransformation requires letting go. Divorce asks us to release outdated identities, roles, and beliefs to make room for something new.
Resources & Influences Mentioned
The work and meditations of Joe Dispenza
The Emotional Guidance Scale and teachings of Abraham Hicks
Conversations around wealth, philanthropy, and feminine power inspired by figures like Melinda Gates
Parting Wisdom from Meagan
“The worse it feels, the more okay you’re going to be. This is the process of turning stone into a diamond.”
🔗 Connect with Meagan Norris
🌐 Website: https://megannorris.com
📸 Instagram: @megannorriscoaching
🎵 TikTok: @divorcedrichwomen
About the Host
Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator, recovering divorce litigator, and host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. She believes divorce isn’t a failure—it’s an opportunity for conscious transformation when supported with the right tools, mindset, and guidance.
🌐 Website: https://highvibemediation.com
📸 Instagram: Links for High Vibe Mediation & High Vibe Divorce are in the show notes
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need support right now. Divorce can feel isolating—but conversations like this remind us we’re not alone.
✨ Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low. ✨

42 - Facing Divorce: The Roles of Grief and Acceptance

🎙️ Episode 42 — Facing Divorce: The Roles of Grief and Acceptance
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney–MediatorPodcast: High Vibe DivorceListen on: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyWebsite: highvibemediation.comInstagram: @highvibedivorce
💔 Episode Overview
In this deeply personal and emotionally resonant episode, Melissa explores one of the most overlooked yet universal aspects of divorce—grief. She shares her own story of profound loss, including the passing of her mother and partner, and how these experiences have shaped her compassionate approach to mediation and emotional healing.Divorce is more than a legal process—it’s a breakup, a transformation, and an invitation to face yourself. Melissa walks listeners through the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) and reflects on how each one shows up uniquely in divorce.
She also discusses how grief intertwines with anxiety, identity loss, and emotional surrender, emphasizing that feeling your feelings—rather than avoiding them—is the true path toward acceptance and peace.
🧘‍♀️ Key Takeaways
Grief is normal and valid—even if you initiated the divorce.
You’re not just grieving the person, but also the future you imagined and the version of yourself who believed in it.
Anger can mask sadness—honor the emotion, but don’t stay stuck there.
Acceptance doesn’t mean approval; it means acknowledging what is and creating space for new joy.
The path through grief is not linear—allow your process to unfold and change over time.
📖 Featured Affirmation
“Repressed and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged.As these feelings are relinquished, the energy that had been holding down the negativity is freed for creativity, growth, and relationships.”— David R. Hawkins, Letting Go Deck
📚 Resources Mentioned
Book: Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC
Book & Deck: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins
Emotional Guidance Scale (available at highvibemediation.com)
💬 Final Message
Grief is not weakness—it’s evidence of love, growth, and transformation. Whether you’re mourning your marriage, your dreams, or your old self, know that you’re not alone. By acknowledging grief, you create the energetic space for acceptance, renewal, and higher vibration.
 
💔 Episode Overview
In this deeply personal and emotionally resonant episode, Melissa explores one of the most overlooked yet universal aspects of divorce—grief. She shares her own story of profound loss, including the passing of her mother and partner, and how these experiences have shaped her compassionate approach to mediation and emotional healing.Divorce is more than a legal process—it’s a breakup, a transformation, and an invitation to face yourself. Melissa walks listeners through the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) and reflects on how each one shows up uniquely in divorce.
She also discusses how grief intertwines with anxiety, identity loss, and emotional surrender, emphasizing that feeling your feelings—rather than avoiding them—is the true path toward acceptance and peace.
🧘‍♀️ Key Takeaways
Grief is normal and valid—even if you initiated the divorce.
You’re not just grieving the person, but also the future you imagined and the version of yourself who believed in it.
Anger can mask sadness—honor the emotion, but don’t stay stuck there.
Acceptance doesn’t mean approval; it means acknowledging what is and creating space for new joy.
The path through grief is not linear—allow your process to unfold and change over time.
📖 Featured Affirmation
“Repressed and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged.As these feelings are relinquished, the energy that had been holding down the negativity is freed for creativity, growth, and relationships.”— David R. Hawkins, Letting Go Deck
📚 Resources Mentioned
Book: Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC
Book & Deck: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins
Emotional Guidance Scale (available at highvibemediation.com)
💬 Final Message
Grief is not weakness—it’s evidence of love, growth, and transformation. Whether you’re mourning your marriage, your dreams, or your old self, know that you’re not alone. By acknowledging grief, you create the energetic space for acceptance, renewal, and higher vibration.

41 - Dating After Divorce: Embracing New Chapters with Laurie Gerber

Episode 41 — Dating After Divorce: Embracing New Chapters with Laurie Gerber
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-MediatorGuest: Laurie Gerber, Love Coach, Founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching Inc.Listen on: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyWebsite: highvibemediation.comInstagram: @highvibedivorce
Episode Overview
Dating after divorce can feel exhilarating, overwhelming, or… completely off the table. Whether you’re ready to jump back in, think you’ll “never date again,” or just want to understand how to approach love more intentionally, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.
Melissa is joined by Laurie Gerber, a seasoned love coach, TEDx speaker, and creator of Master the Art of Love, a digital course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. With over 20 years of coaching experience—including as former President of the Handel Group’s Life Coaching Division—Laurie has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them find and sustain love at every stage of life.
They discuss how to know when you’re ready to date again, how to approach casual vs. serious dating, the importance of learning from past relationship patterns, and why clarity about what you truly want—head, heart, and hoo-ha—makes all the difference.
Affirmation of the Episode
“The more we love, the more we can love. Love is limitless. Love begets love.”— Letting Go Deck by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
Melissa reflects on the anabolic power of love—how romantic, platonic, familial, or self-love can expand your capacity for joy and healing after divorce. Whether or not you’re looking for a relationship right now, this episode will inspire you to believe in new chapters.
Key Topics & Takeaways
Are You Ready to Date Again?Laurie’s 26-question quiz helps you assess your emotional, logistical, and family readiness to step back into the dating world.
Head, Heart & Hoo-ha Framework:Laurie shares her signature tool for evaluating potential partners through intellect, emotional connection, and physical chemistry—equally.
Casual Dating vs. Serious Love:Why taking a “gap year” to explore, have fun, and learn what you truly want can make future relationships healthier and less overwhelming.
Learning from Past Relationships:How to spot patterns from previous marriages or partnerships to avoid repeating them.
Dating Apps vs. Real Life:Practical advice on choosing the right dating sites, using them efficiently, and balancing online and offline opportunities.
Energetic Readiness & Legal Realities:Why it matters to clean up unfinished business—emotionally and legally—before calling in your next great love.
About Laurie Gerber
Laurie Gerber is a love coach, writer, and speaker who has appeared on The Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, A&E, and as the resident love expert for Match, Zoosk, and JDate. She hosts the Love at Any Age podcast and is passionate about helping people find healthy, lasting love through truth-telling and intentional strategy.
Website: lauriegerber.com
Podcast: Love at Any Age
TEDx Talk: The Secret Free Diet
Instagram: @lauriegerbercoach
Connect with Melissa
Website: highvibemediation.com
Instagram: @highvibedivorce
Free Discovery Call: Book Here
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40 - Finding Calm and Support in Divorce: A Conversation with Divorce Doula Betsy Kelly

🎙️ Episode 40 — Finding Calm and Support in Divorce: A Conversation with Divorce Doula Betsy Kelly
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-MediatorGuest: Betsy Kelly, Divorce Coach & Host of Divorce Stories PodcastListen on: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyWebsite: highvibemediation.comInstagram: @highvibedivorce
✨ Episode Overview
In this heartfelt and practical episode, Melissa welcomes Betsy Kelly, known online as The Divorce Doula. Betsy is a divorce coach, podcast host, and divorced mom who blends professional training with personal experience to help others navigate divorce with more clarity, calm, and intention.
They dive deep into what a divorce doula is, the power of nervous system regulation, why community and spirituality are essential during divorce, and how intentional daily choices can create a “high vibe” divorce that sets the stage for a better future.
This episode is short, sweet, and full of wisdom for anyone facing divorce — especially those seeking grounding, emotional support, and tools beyond the legal system.
🌿 Affirmation of the Episode
“Although letting go seems simple and easy, its ultimate effects are profoundly powerful.”
—from the Letting Go Deck, inspired by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.(Author of Letting Go, a must-read for anyone navigating spiritual and emotional healing through divorce.)
🧭 Key Topics & Takeaways
The Role of a Divorce Doula:Betsy compares divorce coaching to her experience with a birth doula — a warm, wise guide helping clients make informed, values-aligned decisions throughout the process.
Nervous System Regulation During Divorce:Regulation isn’t one-size-fits-all. Betsy helps clients identify personalized practices (e.g., meditation, intense exercise, journaling, music, holding kids) to stay grounded and make clear decisions.
Telling Your Divorce Story to Eradicate Shame:Betsy shares her own divorce journey and why she launched the Divorce Stories Podcast — to give voice to experiences that are often hidden, isolating, or stigmatized.
Community, Spirituality & Support:Both Melissa and Betsy emphasize the importance of leaning on community — whether spiritual, familial, or chosen — to combat the disorientation and social restructuring that often accompany divorce.
Coaching vs. Attorneys & Mediators:A coach or doula provides emotional regulation and intentional guidance that attorneys and mediators, bound by their roles, cannot offer. This support can reduce conflict, save money, and improve outcomes.
Training & Professionalism in Divorce Coaching:Betsy’s training through Divorce Coaches Academy centers on conflict resolution and structured sessions — highlighting the difference between trained professionals and unregulated “coaches.”
Daily Orientation Toward Your True North:Betsy encourages listeners to ask themselves daily:“What kind of divorce do I want? What do I want my kids to remember about this time?”Small intentional actions add up to a radically different outcome.
🧘‍♀️ About Betsy Kelly
Website: betsykellycoaching.com
Podcast: Divorce Stories with Betsy Kelly on Apple Podcasts
TikTok: @divorcedoulabetsy
Betsy primarily works with women but is open to working with anyone seeking compassionate, structured guidance through divorce. Her standard coaching package includes six sessions over three months, with discovery calls available.
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Instagram: @highvibedivorce
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🕓 Timestamps
00:00 – Welcome & Affirmation: “Although letting go…”
02:30 – What is a Divorce Doula?
08:15 – Regulation Practices & Nervous System Tools
15:40 – Shame, Storytelling & Launching Divorce Stories
22:00 – Community, Spirituality & Social Restructuring
28:10 – Coaching vs. Legal Support Roles
36:20 – Training, Professionalism & Reducing Conflict
43:00 – Betsy’s Daily Divorce Mindset: Finding True North
48:00 – How to Work with Betsy + Final Thoughts

39 – Maintaining Your Calm and Approaching Your Divorce Like a Business Transaction with Courtney Harkness, CDC, MBA

Episode 39 – Maintaining Your Calm and Approaching Your Divorce Like a Business Transaction with Courtney Harkness, CDC, MBA
Welcome back to High Vibe Divorce! In this episode, Melissa is joined by Courtney Harkness, a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) and MBA with a corporate background who now supports women through the emotional and financial complexities of divorce. Known for her calm, nonjudgmental presence and strategic mindset, Courtney helps clients detach from drama, set strong boundaries, and approach divorce like the high-stakes negotiation it truly is.
Together, Melissa and Courtney explore how to emotionally stabilize, set a strategic game plan, and execute your divorce with clarity and composure. From setting boundaries to managing high-conflict personalities, they share actionable tips for keeping your cool and protecting your peace—while still getting a fair deal.
Key Topics Covered:
Why viewing divorce as a business transaction is empowering for women
The three-step approach: Stabilize, Strategize, Execute
How to manage emotional manipulation and financial secrecy
Practical tools for responding (not reacting) to nasty texts or emails
How not reacting is your divorce superpower
What to gather financially before working with a divorce coach
Why narcissist labels don’t matter—and what to focus on instead
The emotional letdown of being “officially” divorced—and how to prepare
The vital role of a certified divorce coach in high-conflict or high-stakes cases
Tips for spiritual grounding and post-divorce transformation
✨ Affirmation of the Episode:“I establish boundaries to support my freedom.”
Guest Info:Learn more about Courtney Harkness and her coaching services at elitedivorcehelp.com
Follow Courtney on Instagram: @elitedivorcehelp
Connect with Melissa:🌐 highvibemediation.com📸 Instagram: @highvibedivorce
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