High Vibe Divorce
High Vibe Divorce is a place where divorce, wellness, and spirituality meet. High Vibe Divorce is hosted by a family law mediator, divorcee, and recovering divorce litigator of 10 years, Melissa Wheeler Farag. On this podcast, Melissa and featured guests discuss how divorce can be a catalyst for a more fulfilling, authentic, and transformed life. This isn’t a place to bemoan the horrors and pain points of divorce; this is a place to look for higher vibe solutions and optimism. The only way out is through.
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Welcome to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast.
Divorce, Spirituality, and Wellness. The High Vibe Divorce podcast is hosted by attorney-mediator Melissa Wheeler Farag. Conflict can be absolutely transformative; misery in divorce is optional.
Episodes
![13 - Astrology and Self-Discovery with Intuitive Astrologer David Petrusich](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
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Episode Title: 13 - Astrology and Self-Discovery with Intuitive Astrologer David Petrusich
Episode Summary: In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa Wheeler Farag dives into the world of astrology with the insightful and multi-talented David Petrusich. David, an astrologer, intuitive, medium, psychic, tarot reader, and yoga instructor, shares his deep knowledge on how astrology can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and growth, particularly during transitional times like divorce. Melissa and David explore what astrology is, how it works, and how it differs from other spiritual practices. They delve into the foundational aspects of a birth chart, emphasizing the importance of understanding one’s sun, moon, and rising signs. They also discuss key asteroids like Juno and Vesta, which highlight aspects of commitment and self-devotion, respectively, and how these can influence relationships and personal development.
Key Topics:
Introduction to Astrology: Overview of Western astrology and its origins as an ancient divination system.
Birth Chart Basics: Understanding the sun, moon, and rising signs; the significance of the 12 houses; and what they reveal about identity, relationships, and personal growth.
Asteroids in Astrology: Deep dive into the significance of Juno (commitment) and Vesta (self-devotion) and their impact on relationships and self-awareness.
Navigating Relationships and Transitions: How astrology can guide personal development, help in navigating post-divorce life, and understanding relationship patterns.
Tools and Resources: Introduction to the Pattern app for relationship insights and how it integrates astrology to provide guidance on compatibility and personal timing.
Guest: David Petrusich, Astrologer, Intuitive, and Yoga Instructor
Resources:
David Petrusich Website and Service Offerings: Alchemy by David
David's Instagram and TikTok: @davidpetrusich
High Vibe Divorce Instagram: @highvibedivorce
High Vibe Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation
The Pattern App: https://www.thepattern.com/
Call to Action: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with friends who may benefit from learning more about astrology and its potential for personal growth. Remember to keep the vibes high and the conflict low as you navigate life's transitions.
![12 - Mastering Divorce Finances: Insights from CDFA Tyler Chernack on Navigating Your Financial Future](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Monday Aug 26, 2024
Monday Aug 26, 2024
Title: Mastering Divorce Finances: Insights from CDFA Tyler Chernack on Navigating Your Financial Future
Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of High Vibe Divorce, host Melissa Wheeler Farag speaks with Tyler Chernack, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and wealth manager, about the crucial role of financial planning in divorce. Tyler shares his personal journey through divorce and how it led him to become a CDFA. They discuss how a CDFA can simplify the financial aspects of divorce, reduce conflict, and help both parties achieve a fair settlement. The conversation covers the differences between a CDFA and a forensic accountant, the importance of understanding financial documents like income and expense declarations, and creative strategies for managing retirement accounts and other assets during a divorce.
Key Topics:
Affirmation: "I let go of what I can't change."
Role of a CDFA: How financial expertise can simplify divorce settlements and save money.
Personal Insights: Tyler’s experience with divorce and why he became a CDFA.
Comparison: CDFA vs. Forensic Accountant.
Financial Planning: Importance of creating budgets and understanding financial disclosures.
Retirement Planning: Key considerations during divorce and the significance of timing in withdrawals.
High Vibe Divorce: What it means to have a positive, transformative divorce experience.
Guest: Tyler Chernack, CDFA, Vice President at TSG Wealth Management
Resources:
Contact Tyler Chernack: TSG Wealth Management
Connect with Melissa: High Vibe Mediation | High Vibe Divorce Podcast Instagram
Call to Action: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with friends who might benefit from it, and remember to keep the vibes high and the conflict low during your divorce journey.
![11 - Navigating Divorce with Compassion: Insights on Men's Mental Health with Brent Beam, PhD](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Aug 20, 2024
Tuesday Aug 20, 2024
High Vibe Divorce Podcast - Episode with Brent Beam, PhD
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag
Guest: Brent Beam, PhD - Psychologist and Executive Coach
Title: "Navigating Divorce with Compassion: Insights on Men's Mental Health with Brent Beam, PhD"
Summary: In this episode, Melissa Wheeler Farag speaks with Brent Beam, PhD, a psychologist specializing in men's mental health and executive coaching. They discuss the unique challenges men face during divorce, including the pressure to maintain control and the struggle to manage emotions. Brent emphasizes the importance of self-care, community support, and compassionate communication in navigating the divorce process. They also explore the impact of traditional gender roles and offer practical advice for men to maintain their well-being and relationships during and after divorce.
Key Points:
Men’s Mental Health in Divorce:
Challenges men face due to traditional gender roles and emotional conditioning.
Common issues include anger, control, and the impact of societal expectations.
The Role of Therapy and Support:
Importance of anchoring in the body through healthy routines.
Seeking community support and not navigating divorce alone.
How therapy can be a practical tool for growth and healing.
Impact of Divorce on Identity and Relationships:
How divorce threatens men's sense of purpose and identity, especially as parents.
Strategies for compassionate communication and co-parenting.
Encouragement to Seek Help:
Recommending resources like Open Path Collective for affordable mental health support.
The importance of finding the right therapist and support systems.
Quote of the Episode: "Divorce is a catalyst for growth—where you're broken is where the light can get in."
Call to Action:
Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast.
Share this episode with someone who might benefit from understanding the mental health challenges men face during divorce.
Follow Melissa on Instagram @highvibemediation and visit Brent's website for more resources.
Closing Message: Thank you for tuning in to this enlightening conversation with Brent Beam. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone—reach out for the support you need.
![10 - Find Financial Clarity in Divorce with CDFA Victoria Kirilloff](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
High Vibe Divorce Podcast - Find Financial Clarity in Divorce with CDFA Victoria Kirilloff
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag
Guest: Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, NCPM, CDS
Episode Title: Find Financial Clarity in Divorce with CDFA Victoria Kirilloff
Summary: In this episode, Melissa Wheeler-Farag welcomes Victoria Kirilloff, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Nationally Certified Professional Mediator (NCPM), and Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS). Victoria shares her personal journey through a challenging divorce, highlighting how financial clarity empowered her to take control of her situation. They discuss the role of a CDFA in divorce, the four phases of divorce (emotional, social, financial, and legal), and the importance of documentation in securing a fair settlement. Victoria emphasizes the value of hiring the right professionals to support a streamlined, less adversarial divorce process.
Key Points:
Victoria's Personal Journey:
Overcame an abusive relationship by gaining financial clarity.
Created the first "divorce impact analysis report" for her own divorce.
Role of a CDFA:
Provides financial clarity and helps navigate complex financial decisions during divorce.
Importance of understanding marital assets, spousal support, and the financial implications of divorce.
Four Phases of Divorce:
Emotional: Dealing with the decision to divorce and setting boundaries.
Social: Communicating the divorce to others, including children.
Financial: Understanding and documenting the marital estate.
Legal: Utilizing financial facts to streamline the legal process.
Financial Clarity and Documentation:
Importance of using accurate data to support financial decisions.
Avoiding common pitfalls like underestimating expenses or relying on inaccurate home valuations.
Choosing the Right Process:
Advocates for a collaborative approach with a team of professionals (mediators, CDFAs, divorce coaches).
Emphasizes that litigation can be costly and drawn out, and it’s better to work with professionals who can facilitate a fair and efficient settlement.
Quote of the Episode: "This divorce is not the end of your life—it's a small blip on your financial radar, but it can be a launching pad for your next phase if you approach it with the right team and mindset."
Call to Action:
Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast on your favorite platform.
Share this episode with someone who might benefit from understanding the financial aspects of divorce.
Follow Melissa and Victoria on Instagram and visit their websites for more resources and support.
Closing Message: Thank you for tuning in to this insightful discussion with Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, NCPM, CDS. Remember, divorce is a significant financial event, but with the right support, you can come out stronger and more empowered.
Connect with Melissa and Victoria:
Melissa Wheeler Farag:
Website: High Vibe Mediation
Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce
Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation
Victoria Kirilloff:
Website: Divorce Analytics
Instagram: @divorceanalytics
Book your free consultation: here
![9 - Transforming Divorce with Sharri Freedman: Empowerment, Healing, and Radical Personal Responsibility](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Monday Aug 05, 2024
Monday Aug 05, 2024
High Vibe Divorce Podcast Show Notes: Episode with Sharri Freedman, JD, Certified Divorce Coach
Episode Title: Transforming Divorce with Sharri Freedman: Empowerment, Healing, and Radical Personal Responsibility
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator
Guest: Sharri Friedman, JD, Certified Divorce Coach - Divorce and Relationship Coach, Founder and CEO of Potomac Coaching
Introduction:
Melissa welcomes listeners to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast, emphasizing the transformative potential of divorce.
Introduction of Sharri Freedman, highlighting her extensive background in family law and her current role as a divorce coach.
Guest Background:
Sharri's transition from practicing family law to becoming a divorce and relationship coach.
Overview of Sharri's certifications and her unique approach, combining legal wisdom with strategies for nervous system regulation, mindset, subconscious trauma healing, and energetics.
Key Discussion Points:
Understanding Divorce Coaching:
Definition and importance of divorce coaching as recognized by the American Bar Association (ABA).
The role of divorce coaches in providing emotional and strategic support during and after the divorce process.
Unique Aspects of Sharri’s Coaching:
Sharri’s holistic approach combining legal experience, neuroscience, spirituality, and somatic practices.
The significance of certifications and the difference between various divorce coaches.
Radical Personal Responsibility (RPR):
Explanation of RPR and its importance in taking control of one's life during and after divorce.
How RPR helps in shifting from victim mentality to empowerment and freedom.
The Concept of “Is-ness”:
"Is-ness" = Embracing situations as they are without attaching stories and narratives that cause additional pain.
Techniques to neutralize emotional reactions and make thoughtful decisions.
Liberated Program:
Overview of Sharri’s "Liberated" Program, its framework, and its focus on identity evolution.
Details on how the program helps clients evolve and thrive post-divorce.
Community and Support:
The importance of having a supportive community and how Sharri’s group coaching provides this.
Encouragement to seek support outside of one's immediate circle for a more transformative experience.
Affirmation of the Day:
"My high vibe thoughts create health in my body, peace in my mind, and love in my heart."
Closing Thoughts:
Encouragement for listeners to consider divorce coaching as a valuable resource.
Information on how to join Sharri’s "Liberated" Program and link for a free discovery call.
Call to Action:
Visit the High Vibe Mediation website for more resources and to download the Emotional Guidance Scale.
Follow High Vibe Divorce on Instagram for updates and additional content.
Subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
Contact Information:
Melissa Wheeler Farag:
Website: highvibemediation.com
Instagram: @highvibemediation
Sharri Friedman:
Website: Potomac Coaching
Schedule a Free Consultation: Book Here
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdivorcecoach/
Next Episode Tease:
Next week we will have sage advice from financial superstar, Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA.
Outro:
Melissa thanks Sharri for joining the podcast and the listeners for tuning in.
Reminder to keep the vibes high and the conflict low.
![8 - The Amicable, Restorative Divorce with Erin Birt](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
Episode Title: The Amicable, Restorative Divorce with Erin Birt, Esq
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator
Guest: Erin Birt, attorney-mediator of Birt Family Law from Chicago, Illinois
Introduction
Melissa: Welcome back to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Here, we believe that divorce is not a failure but a new beginning and a vehicle for transformation.
Gratitude: Thank you to everyone for supporting the podcast in its first season.
Guest Introduction
Guest: Erin Birt, attorney-mediator and founder of Birt Family Law in Chicago, Illinois.
Background: Erin has been practicing since 2003, is a certified alcohol and drug abuse counselor, and advocates for "Restorative Divorce," her proprietary approach to amicable divorce settlement.
Episode Highlights
Erin’s Approach:
Restorative Divorce focuses on keeping families intact despite divorce and supporting children's well-being.
Erin emphasizes accountability, consequences, and action plans to address family issues outside the court system.
Mental Health in Divorce:
Importance of addressing clients' mental health and well-being.
Erin’s practice includes initial screenings and continuous support for clients' mental health.
Discussing the misconception that mental health treatment can negatively impact custody cases.
Choosing the Right Divorce Process:
The importance of mediation and other non-court processes for most family law issues.
Litigation is necessary only for severe issues like abuse or fraud.
Emphasizing that mediation allows for a more personalized and future-focused resolution.
Impact of the Legal Process:
The emotional and financial toll of prolonged litigation.
Court processes often lead to frustration and lack of control over outcomes.
Encouraging Wellness:
Tips for maintaining mental health during the divorce process.
Encouragement to use resources like therapy and support groups.
Professional Differences:
Contrast between litigators and mediators in terms of stress and approach.
Benefits of choosing mediation for a more positive and solution-oriented process.
Affirmation of the Episode
Affirmation from The Untethered Soul:
"The only permanent solution to your problems is to go inside and let go of the part of you that seems to have so many problems with reality."
Closing Thoughts
Erin’s Advice:
Gather information about mediation and alternative dispute resolution.
Reach out and learn about the methods to find the best fit for your situation.
Melissa: Thank you for listening to High Vibe Divorce. Stay in touch, keep the vibes high, and the conflict low.
Contact Information
Erin Birt:
Website: https://www.birtlaw.com/
Instagram: Erin Birt | Birt Family Law
Melissa Wheeler Farag:
Website: hivibemediation.com
Instagram: High Vibe Mediation | Podcast
Call to Action
Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
Share: Don't hesitate to share this episode with a friend who might benefit from it.
![7 - Why Divorce Mediation Has a Higher Vibration Than Litigation](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Jul 23, 2024
Tuesday Jul 23, 2024
Episode Title: Why Divorce Mediation Has a Higher Vibration Than Litigation
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator.
Episode Description: Welcome to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. In this solo episode, Melissa Wheeler Farag dives deep into why mediation holds a much higher vibration than litigation in divorce and family law cases. She shares her journey from a divorce litigator to a passionate mediator, emphasizing the transformative power of mediation. Melissa also discusses the multiple benefits of mediation, including cost-effectiveness, confidentiality, control, and flexibility. She encourages listeners to consider mediation as a primary option, aiming to foster a positive and collaborative divorce experience.
Key Points:
Introduction
Divorce is not a failure; it's a new beginning and a vehicle for transformation.
Melissa’s transition from litigator to mediator.
Why Mediation is Higher Vibration than Litigation
Mediation preserves relationships and is especially beneficial for co-parenting, business partnerships, or shared properties.
Mediation is a voluntary, collaborative process, unlike the adversarial nature of litigation.
Emphasis on the benefits of mediation, including improved communication and better future interactions.
Affirmation
Affirmation for listeners: "I am capable of making healthy decisions for my future."
Benefits of Mediation
Cost-Effectiveness: Mediation is generally less expensive than litigation. Flat fee or hybrid payment plans are often available.
Confidentiality: Mediation sessions are private, unlike public court cases.
Control and Flexibility: Parties have more control over the outcomes and can make tailored agreements.
Speed: Mediation can be scheduled quickly and resolve disputes faster than the court system.
Emotional Well-Being: Mediation is less adversarial and promotes a healthier emotional state.
Higher Compliance and Satisfaction: Agreements made in mediation are more likely to be followed and result in higher satisfaction.
Emotional Guidance Scale
Discusses the emotional guidance scale from Abraham Hicks, highlighting how mediation can lead to higher vibrational emotions.
Encourages listeners to strive for feelings like contentment, optimism, and positive expectations through mediation.
Additional Benefits
Protection for Children: Mediation helps avoid scenarios where children might have to testify or be involved in the conflict.
Emotional Closure: Mediation allows for better emotional closure than litigation.
Opportunities for Apology and Forgiveness: Mediation provides a safe space for apologies and forgiveness.
Call to Action
Encourages listeners to download the free Emotional Guidance Scale PDF from her website.
Promotes the importance of giving mediation serious consideration before opting for litigation.
Resources Mentioned:
Emotional Guidance Scale PDF available for free on highvibemediation.com (available in pink or blue).
Recommended book: The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce.
Connect with Melissa:
Website: highvibemediation.com
Instagram: @highvibemediation
Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce
Support the Podcast:
If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
Share this episode with a friend who might benefit from understanding the advantages of mediation over litigation in divorce.
Closing Note:
"Keep the vibes high and the conflict low."
![6 - Finding Healing and Light in Divorce with Suzy Schaak](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
Episode Title: Finding Healing and Light in Divorce with Suzy Schaak
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-Mediator and Recovering Divorce Litigator
Introduction: Welcome to the High Vibe Divorce podcast! I'm your host, Melissa Wheeler Farag. Here, we believe that divorce isn't a failure and your life isn't over. In fact, it's just beginning and the divorce process is an incredible vehicle for transformation if you're willing to do the work. So keep an open mind and let me be your guide. This is High Vibe Divorce.
Guest: Suzy Schaak - Acclaimed Healer, Yogini, Artist, and Author
Guest Bio: Suzy Schaak is a renowned healer based near the St. Croix River in Minnesota. After a successful career as a fashion stylist, Suzy transitioned to focus on healing, yoga, and spirituality. She founded Pure Yoga in Stillwater, which was celebrated as St. Croix Valley's best yoga studio for a decade. Suzy is known for her clairvoyant healing sessions and her book "Stand in Your Truth: Seven Sacred Truths to Living a Divinely Guided Life." Suzy's work emphasizes the power of vibration and light, aiming to foster love, healing, and transformation.
Episode Summary: In this episode, I sit down with Suzy Schaak to explore her journey from fashion stylist to spiritual healer. Suzy shares her personal experiences with grief and transformation, which led her to a path of healing and helping others. We discuss her book, "Stand in Your Truth," and the seven sacred truths that guide her teachings. Suzy also shares practical advice for those new to spirituality and how to use these truths to navigate difficult life transitions, such as divorce.
Key Topics Discussed:
Suzy’s background and transition from fashion to healing
The founding and impact of Pure Yoga in Stillwater
Suzy’s clairvoyant healing sessions and spiritual experiences
The inspiration and content of her book "Stand in Your Truth"
Practical advice for those going through divorce and other transitions
The importance of grounding, self-compassion, and unconditional love
Guided grounding and presence exercises led by Suzy
Quotes:
"Stand in your truth and you'll find your alignment; when you find your alignment, you'll find your healing." - Suzy Schaak
"Offer yourself grace as you're walking through a really bad situation, and if you can find grace for that other person, you've set yourself free." - Suzy Schaak
Resources Mentioned:
Book: "Stand in Your Truth: Seven Sacred Truths to Living a Divinely Guided Life" by Suzy Schaak
Suzy’s website: Suzy Schaak Yoga
Suzy’s upcoming workbook and online workshop details (check her website for updates)
Connect with Us:
Melissa Wheeler Farag: High Vibe Mediation
Instagram: @highvibemediation (professional) and @highvibedivorce
Call to Action: If you enjoyed today’s episode or found it helpful, please subscribe and leave us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Also, don't hesitate to share this with a friend. Divorce can be stressful and isolating, so keep the conversation going and stay in touch with your divorcing loved ones.
Closing: Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low.
![5 - Your Nervous System and Divorce with Darby Jackson (Part 2)](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Episode: Your Nervous System and Divorce with Darby Jackson - Part 2
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Esq.
Guest: Darby Jackson, somatic practitioner and nervous system expert
Episode Summary: In this continuation of the interview with Darby Jackson, Melissa and Darby delve into practical tools and techniques for nervous system regulation, especially beneficial during stressful experiences like divorce. Darby provides insights into somatic practices, the importance of co-regulation, and ways to create a sense of safety in the body.
Key Points:
Starting Nervous System Regulation:
Awareness: Recognizing signs of dysregulation in your body (e.g., heart racing, stomach clenching) and anchoring feelings of both activation and relaxation.
Practical Techniques: Slow hand movements, deep breathing, orienting by looking around the space, and the VU breath (inhale through the nose, exhale with a VU sound for 6-10 seconds).
Discharging Activation:
Healthy Release: Creating a space to release built-up emotions through screaming into a pillow, twisting a towel, or shaking hands and arms.
Darby's Online Class: "Body Language" class that combines music and somatic movements to access and release stored emotions.
Regulation Techniques for Stressful Situations:
Before and During Stressful Events: Practice regulation techniques like deep breathing, VU breath, and spatial orienting before entering high-stress environments such as courtrooms or mediation sessions.
Minimizing Screen Time: Reduce screen time and social media use before stressful events to avoid additional dysregulation.
Parenting and Co-Regulation:
Impact on Children: The importance of a parent’s regulation on a child’s nervous system and recognizing signs of dysregulation in children (e.g., extended tantrums, picky eating, frequent illness).
Teaching Emotional Awareness: Helping children identify and express their emotions to foster long-term emotional health.
Somatic Therapy Trends:
Future Focus: Teaching children to manage big feelings and the importance of developing intuition and self-awareness through somatic practices.
Affirmation: "I reflect deeply with gentle curiosity and compassion."
Call to Action:
Connect with Darby: Visit Darby's website darbyjackson.com and follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darbyjackson_/
Free Nervous System Webinar: https://www.darbyjackson.com/free-guide
Register for Body Language Somatics Class: https://www.darbyjackson.com/body-language
Listen to More Episodes: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform.
Share with Friends: Divorce can be stressful and isolating; sharing this podcast can support others going through similar experiences.
Connect with Melissa:
Downloadable Resource: Listeners are invited to download the emotional guidance scale PDF from the High Vibe Mediation website for ongoing reference.
Follow HVD on Instagram: High Vibe Divorce can be found on Instagram @highvibedivorce and Melissa can be found on her professional Instagram page @highvibemediation.
Closing: "Keep the vibes high and the conflict low."
![4 - Your Nervous System and Divorce with Darby Jackson (Part 1)](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/18799283/High_Vibe_Divorce_-Podcast_kadwrc_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Wednesday Jul 03, 2024
Episode: Your Nervous System and Divorce with Darby Jackson (Part 1)
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Esq.
Guest: Darby Jackson, somatic experience practitioner-in-training, nervous system specialist, Safe and Sound Protocol provider, coach, and Reiki master.
Episode Summary: In this episode, Melissa interviews Darby Jackson, discussing the importance of nervous system regulation and somatic experiencing, especially during challenging times like divorce. Darby shares her journey from entrepreneur to somatic practitioner and provides valuable insights into managing nervous system dysregulation, trauma, and chronic stress.
Key Points:
Introduction to Darby Jackson:
Background: Darby’s transition from building a multimillion-dollar business to experiencing burnout and discovering somatic experiencing.
Expertise: Darby supports adults with nervous system dysregulation, burnout, postpartum issues, chronic stress, trauma, anxiety, chronic illness, and low self-worth.
Understanding the Nervous System:
States of the Nervous System: Rest and digest, fight or flight, freeze, and fawn.
Neuroception: The subconscious process of assessing safety, danger, or life-threatening situations based on previous experiences and trauma.
Importance of Regulation: Moving up and down the nervous system states smoothly is crucial for overall health and well-being.
Somatic Experiencing:
Definition: A body-based approach to healing trauma and regulating the nervous system.
Practices: Creating safety in the body, feeling and releasing stored trauma, and using somatic tools for self-regulation.
Common Signs of Nervous System Dysregulation:
Physical Symptoms: Digestive issues, brain fog, immune system problems, and sleep disruptions.
Emotional Symptoms: Anxiety, depression, and difficulty processing emotions.
Practical Tips for Regulation:
Daily Practices: Grounding exercises like walking barefoot, managing caffeine intake, eating whole foods, and getting sunlight.
Somatic Movements: Self-touch techniques such as rubbing earlobes and crossing arms over the chest to mimic a hug and promote self-regulation.
Challenges in Somatic Work:
Facing Trauma: The difficulty of acknowledging and feeling stored trauma.
Self-Resource Building: Developing internal resources to manage intense emotions and situations independently.
Affirmation: "I reflect deeply with gentle curiosity and compassion."
Call to Action:
Listen to Part Two: More practical tips and exercises from Darby Jackson will be shared in the next episode.
Connect with Darby:
Website at https://www.darbyjackson.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darbyjackson_/
Free Nervous System Webinar: https://www.darbyjackson.com/free-guide
Register for Body Language Somatics Class: https://www.darbyjackson.com/body-language
Connect with Melissa:
Downloadable Resource: Listeners are invited to download the emotional guidance scale PDF from the High Vibe Mediation website for ongoing reference.
Follow HVD on Instagram: High Vibe Divorce can be found on Instagram @highvibedivorce and Melissa can be found on her professional Instagram page @highvibemediation.
Subscribe and Review: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share with friends and keep the conversation going to support those going through divorce.
Closing: "Keep the vibes high and the conflict low."