High Vibe Divorce

33 - Make Your Divorce an Up-Level, Not a Rock-Bottom with Divorce Coach Anna Wallace

🎙️ High Vibe Divorce – Episode 33
“Make Your Divorce an Up-Level, Not a Rock-Bottom”with Special Guest: Anna Wallace, Divorce Coach & Founder of Your Healthy Divorce
Episode Summary:In this powerful and inspiring conversation, I’m joined by Anna Wallace—attorney, yoga instructor, wellness mentor, and the visionary behind Your Healthy Divorce. Anna shares her personal journey from divorce litigation to divorce coaching, and how she created the Healthy Divorce Method to support the whole person—emotionally, mentally, financially, and spiritually—through the divorce process.
Together, we explore how divorce doesn’t have to be your rock bottom. With the right support, it can be a beautiful opportunity for growth, clarity, and up-leveling your life.
What We Cover in This Episode:
How the Healthy Divorce Method integrates nervous system regulation, legal planning, and transformational coaching
The power of coaching vs. traditional litigation
Why nervous system regulation is essential for smart, empowered decision-making
What limited scope legal services really are—and how they can save you thousands
Why divorce coaches are changing the game
How yoga, breathwork, and somatic healing can help you alchemize grief into growth
The emotional + financial cost of staying stuck in fight-or-flight
What it means to have a divorce your future self will be proud of
Guest Info:🌿 Anna Wallace, Divorce Coach & Founder of Your Healthy DivorceInstagram: @thehealthydivorce
Your Health Divorce: Course Link
👉 Anna offers 1:1 coaching, workshops, and her signature Healthy Divorce Course, launching February 1st. It’s packed with self-paced modules to help you stay calm, clear, and confident through your divorce process.
Affirmation of the Episode:✨ “I am alive. I honor my life by letting go, dancing, singing, and feeling the fullness of my joyful energy. I am my true self when I am having fun.” — I AM Everything Deck
Connect with Me:💻 HighVibeMediation.com📸 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce
If you loved this episode:🌟 Please subscribe, rate & review on your favorite podcast platform.📲 Share it with someone navigating divorce who needs a dose of hope, clarity, and calm.💌 DM me your thoughts—I love hearing from you.
Until next time…Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

32 - From Chaos to Clarity: Dr. Kate Flynn's Guide to Post-Traumatic Growth

Episode 32: From Chaos to Clarity – Dr. Kate Flynn’s Guide to Post-Traumatic Growth
Host: Melissa Farag, Divorce MediatorGuest: Dr. Kate Flynn, The Crisis Coach
Episode Summary
In this transformative episode of High Vibe Divorce, I sit down with Dr. Kate Flynn, a developmental psychologist and crisis coach who helps individuals navigate high-stakes personal and professional crises. With a background in clinical psychology and entrepreneurship, Kate developed a framework for stabilizing chaos, supporting strategic decision-making, and helping individuals emerge from crisis with clarity and control.
Kate shares her personal journey through an unexpected life crisis—her ex-husband’s arrest—which forced her to rebuild every aspect of her life. Through this experience, she uncovered the power of post-traumatic growth, a psychological phenomenon where individuals can emerge from adversity stronger, more intentional, and more connected than ever before.
If you're facing a divorce or any major life crisis, this episode is packed with insights on how to shift from reacting to responding, regain control, and harness life’s toughest moments as a catalyst for growth.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
🔹 What is a crisis coach? Kate explains how she helps clients navigate crisis and transition.🔹 How to stabilize chaos – The first steps to regaining control in a difficult situation.🔹 The role of radical acceptance in healing and moving forward.🔹 Why post-traumatic growth is possible – and how to achieve it.🔹 The importance of choosing the right professionals during a divorce.🔹 Therapeutic tools for transformation, including EMDR, neurofeedback, IFS (Internal Family Systems), and more.🔹 How divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth if approached with intention.
Quotes to Remember
💬 "Crisis steals control. How you respond changes everything." – Dr. Kate Flynn💬 "You can either stay stuck, regress, or use this moment to level up. The choice is yours." – Melissa Wheeler Farag💬 "There is no going back to who you were before the crisis. But you get to decide if you become better or worse." – Dr. Kate Flynn
Resources & Links
✨ Connect with Dr. Kate Flynn at TheCrisisCoach.com✨ Book a free consultation with Kate: Click Here✨ Follow Kate on LinkedIn: Dr. Kate Flynn
✨ Connect with Melissa Wheeler Farag:🔹 Website: HighVibeMediation.com🔹 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce
🎧 If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Divorce can feel isolating, but together, we can transform it into something empowering.
Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low! ✨💜

31 - Weaving New Beginnings: Holistic Coaching for the Modern Divorce with Sarah Beth Green CDC

Podcast Show Notes: High Vibe Divorce - Episode 31
Weaving New Beginnings: Holistic Coaching for the Modern Divorce with Sarah Beth Green, CDC
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law MediatorGuest: Sarah Beth Green, Certified Divorce Coach (CDC)
Episode Summary
In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa Wheeler Farag is joined by Sarah Beth Green, a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) and former energy medicine practitioner. Together, they explore how holistic coaching can support individuals navigating the complexities of divorce. With a focus on emotional regulation, self-awareness, and empowerment, Sarah shares her journey, insights, and the unique ways she blends shamanic energy healing and divorce coaching to help clients transition with clarity and confidence.
Episode Highlights:
🔹 Affirmation of the Day: I am attracted to those people who serve my highest good.Melissa sets the tone for the episode with an affirmation emphasizing the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who uplift and support us.
🔹 Meet Sarah Beth GreenSarah is a Certified Divorce Coach with extensive experience in energy medicine, foster care advocacy, and leadership in nonprofit organizations. She is also a fiber artist, known online as The Yarning Shaman, weaving creativity and healing into her work.
🔹 The Power of Certified Divorce Coaching
Sarah shares her experience with the Certified Divorce Coach program and why having a trained, ethical coach can be essential in navigating the legal and emotional complexities of divorce.
The importance of hiring a coach with proper certification to ensure they understand legal processes and can support clients effectively.
🔹 Shamanic Energy Healing & Divorce
Sarah explains shamanic energy healing and how it integrates into her divorce coaching practice.
How energy work, including soul retrieval and subconscious healing, can help individuals release emotional contracts and move forward.
🔹 The Role of a Divorce Coach in a Legal Setting
Sarah works as a divorce coach within a law firm to assist clients with emotional regulation and practical support.
How having a coach can save money by streamlining communication with attorneys and reducing unnecessary legal costs.
🔹 Avoiding Common Divorce Pitfalls
The dangers of getting swept away in legal battles and unnecessary disputes.
The importance of being intentional about what truly matters in the divorce process.
How slowing down, gaining clarity, and setting realistic expectations can lead to a more peaceful and efficient resolution.
🔹 The Four Stages of Stepparenting
Sarah shares insights from her viral TikTok video and upcoming book on blended families and step-parenting.
The four emotional phases step-parents go through and how to navigate them successfully.
🔹 Final Takeaways:
Divorce is an opportunity for transformation.
The importance of emotional regulation and self-reflection in the divorce process.
The role of a divorce coach in helping clients navigate legal, financial, and emotional hurdles with confidence.
Where to Find Sarah Beth Green
📲 Instagram & Threads: @SarahGreenCDC🌐 Nelson Law Group PC Website: https://nelsonlawgrouppc.com/team/sarah-green/
Connect with High Vibe Divorce
📲 Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce🌐 Website: www.highvibemediation.com
Connect with Melissa at High Vibe Mediation, LLC
📲 Instagram: @HighVibeMediation🌐 Website: www.highvibemediation.com
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30 - Transforming Co-Parenting: From Combative to Collaborative with Teresa Harlow

Episode 30: Transforming Co-Parenting: From Combative to Collaborative with Teresa Harlow
Episode Summary:Welcome to another episode of High Vibe Divorce with your host, Melissa Wheeler Farag! Today, I’m joined by Teresa Harlow, a co-parenting coach, author, and experienced co-parent. We discuss the challenges and rewards of effective co-parenting, and Teresa shares insights from her book Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The importance of adopting a business-like mindset in co-parenting transactions.
How to maintain focus on the well-being of children and practice the Golden Rule in co-parenting.
Strategies for managing anger, relinquishing control, and fostering collaboration.
Practical advice for working with step-parents and navigating custody modifications through coaching and mediation.
Affirmation of the Day:Willingness to create is more vital than trying to create perfection. I choose willingness over perfection.When it comes to co-parenting, having the willingness to try and collaborate is key. While it may not always be easy, committing to taking the high road and working together will benefit your children in the long run.
Episode Highlights:
[02:15] Introducing Teresa Harlow and her journey into co-parent coaching.
[06:30] Why treating co-parenting like a business transaction can be beneficial.
[12:45] The Golden Rule in co-parenting: How to keep interactions civil and productive.
[18:20] Managing anger, grief, and disappointment in co-parenting relationships.
[25:00] How to work with step-parents and create a cooperative parenting team.
[31:45] Modifying custody arrangements: The role of coaching and mediation.
[38:00] The importance of mindset shifts in fostering better co-parenting relationships.
Key Takeaways:
Co-parenting is a long-term relationship that requires continuous effort, adjustments, and communication.
Viewing your ex as a parenting partner rather than an adversary can help reduce conflict and improve outcomes for your child.
Tools like co-parenting apps (Talking Parents, Our Family Wizard) can be useful in maintaining healthy communication.
Working with a co-parenting coach can provide guidance and support, particularly when modifying custody arrangements or addressing ongoing conflict.
Connect with Teresa Harlow:
Website: TeresaHarlow.com (soon to be CoParent-Coach.com)
Book: Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code (Available on Amazon)
Connect with Melissa Wheeler Farag:
Website: HighVibeMediation.com
Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce
Mediation Services: @HighVibeMediation
Support the Podcast:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Sharing this episode with a friend who might need it is also a great way to spread support and positivity. Divorce can be stressful and isolating, so let’s keep the conversation going and support one another.
Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

29 - Choosing the Right Divorce Professionals

Episode Title: 29 - Choosing the Right Divorce ProfessionalsHost: Melissa Wheeler Farag
Episode Summary:
In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, host Melissa Wheeler-Farag, a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, dives into the importance of selecting the right professionals to support you during your divorce journey. The professionals you choose can make or break your experience, and Melissa shares expert insights on how to navigate this process with clarity and intention.
Key Takeaways:
Divorce is a Transformative Process – It’s not a failure, but an opportunity for personal growth.
Choosing the Right Professionals – The right team can reduce stress, save money, and improve outcomes.
Support is Key – Having the right professionals in your corner is as vital as support from friends and family.
Episode Highlights:
1. Setting Intentions for Professional Support
Melissa shares an affirmation card from The Soul’s Journey Lesson Cards by James Van Praagh:
"I am attracted to those people who serve my higher good."When selecting professionals, ensure they align with your values, goals, and desired divorce experience.
2. Why a Divorce Coach is Essential
Helps you get organized, focused, and emotionally prepared for divorce.
The American Bar Association recognizes divorce coaches as dispute resolution professionals.
Look for a Certified Divorce Coach (CDC) or someone with mental health training.
Divorce coaches assist in decision-making, communication strategies, and co-parenting.
3. The Benefits of Mediation Over Litigation
Mediation is less adversarial, more cost-effective, and time-efficient.
Courts are backlogged (especially in California), making litigation a slow and stressful process.
Mediation fosters cooperation, which is especially important for co-parenting.
4. The Role of a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)
A CDFA helps with financial clarity:
Support calculations
Property division & settlements
Business & real estate valuations
More affordable than attorneys and provides specialized knowledge on financial matters.
5. Certified Divorce Lending Professionals (CDLPs)
If keeping or selling the family home is in question, a CDLP can provide mortgage solutions.
Example: Tammy Wallensack (featured in a previous episode) specializes in divorce real estate solutions.
Many professionals offer free consultations to help assess financial options.
6. Hiring the Right Attorney (If Needed)
Litigation vs. Settlement Focus – Do you want an aggressive “bulldog” attorney, or someone solution-focused?
Interview multiple attorneys – Don't hire the first one you meet.
Ask about strategy – Will they support mediation? Do they promote settlement before trial?
Beware of conflict-driven attorneys – If they push excessive discovery and litigation, reconsider.
Know that firing an attorney is an option – If they are not serving your best interests, move on.
7. Other Key Specialists to Consider:
Forensic Accountants – Useful for complex financial cases (businesses, pensions, hidden assets).
Certified Divorce Real Estate Professionals – If real estate is involved, they provide guidance.
Therapists & Mental Health Experts – Essential for emotional support and co-parenting strategies.
Melissa’s Final Thoughts:
Educate Yourself – Utilize resources like ChatGPT to understand state-specific divorce laws.
Operate from Knowledge, Not Fear – Knowledge empowers you to make rational, high-vibe decisions.
Listen to Past Podcast Episodes – Many featured professionals offer valuable insights and services.
Reach Out – If you’re unsure which professional to contact, DM @highvibedivorce on Instagram for guidance.
Resources & Contact Info:
📌 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @highvibedivorce📌 Previous Episodes: Scroll through past guests for vetted professionals.📌 Book a Consultation with a Divorce Coach, Mediator, or CDFA – Research their credentials and expertise.📌 For legal guidance, consult multiple attorneys before making a decision.
💡 Remember: A high-vibe divorce starts with choosing professionals who align with your vision for the future!
🎧 Listen & Subscribe:Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major podcast platforms! If you enjoyed today’s episode, please leave a rating & review to help others on their journey.
🚀 Next Episode Teaser: Stay tuned for an upcoming discussion on Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting Strategies with a top parenting expert!
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28 - From Conflict to Collaboration: Choosing Respect in Divorce with Melissa Lenon, LMFT

High Vibe Divorce Podcast: 28 - From Conflict to Collaboration: Choosing Respect in DivorceFeaturing Melissa Lenon, LMFT
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Divorce Mediator
Episode Overview:
Welcome to High Vibe Divorce! In this episode, host Melissa Wheeler Farag sits down with Melissa Lenon, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in divorce, co-parenting challenges, and life transitions. They discuss how shifting from conflict to collaboration can create a healthier divorce process and set the stage for more positive co-parenting relationships.
This episode also highlights Divorce with Respect Week—an annual initiative dedicated to promoting amicable, dignified, and private divorce resolutions through collaborative methods. Listeners will learn about the benefits of collaborative divorce, the role of divorce coaches, and how mental health professionals can support families through this major life change.
Episode Highlights:
Affirmation of the Day: "All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation, only good will come. I am safe." — Louise Hay
Meet the Guest: Melissa Lenon, LMFT, licensed mental health professional with extensive experience in divorce coaching, parenting plans, and collaborative divorce.
What is Collaborative Divorce?
A structured, out-of-court process aimed at reducing conflict and fostering open communication.
Involves attorneys, financial specialists, mental health professionals, and divorce coaches.
Encourages respectful co-parenting and ensures both parties maintain control over the outcome.
Attorneys sign an agreement to withdraw if litigation is pursued, incentivizing cooperation.
Divorce with Respect Week 2025:
Scheduled for March 3-9, 2025.
Provides free 30-minute consultations with professionals, including attorneys, mental health experts, and financial advisors.
Offers a national platform to educate individuals on non-adversarial divorce options.
More information available at divorcewithrespectweek.com.
The Mental Health Impact of Divorce:
Collaborative divorce helps de-escalate conflict and supports emotional regulation.
Importance of professional guidance in parenting plans and co-parenting communication.
Addressing high-conflict divorce cases and the long-term effects on children.
Advice for Those Facing a High-Conflict Divorce:
Steps to navigate a contentious divorce when one party refuses to engage in collaborative efforts.
The value of coaching to improve personal resilience and communication.
Recognizing and managing dynamics with high-conflict or narcissistic personalities.
Building a Divorce Support Team:
Importance of involving financial specialists, therapists, and legal professionals.
How a well-rounded team can improve both the emotional and logistical aspects of divorce.
Resources & Links:
Melissa Lenon, LMFT: MyDivorceCoach.net | Email: MelissaMFT@iCloud.com
High Vibe Mediation: HighVibeMediation.com
Divorce with Respect Week: DivorceWithRespectWeek.com
Collaborative Practice California: CP-Cal.org
Connect with Melissa Wheeler Farag:
Website: HighVibeMediation.com
Instagram: @highvibemediation
Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce
Call to Action:
If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with a friend who may be navigating divorce—support and education are key to transforming this life transition.
Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

27 - Empower Your Divorce with Human Design feat. Nicole Guena

Episode 27 - Empower Your Divorce with Human Design featuring Nicole Guena
Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-MediatorGuest: Nicole Guena, Human Design Expert and Personal Growth Coach
Episode Summary:
In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, we dive deep into the world of Human Design and how it can be a transformative tool during major life transitions like divorce. My guest, Nicole Guena, is a Human Design expert and coach who helps individuals understand themselves on a deeper level, enabling them to move through challenges with more clarity and self-compassion.
We discuss how knowing your Human Design type can empower you to make better decisions, improve relationships, and navigate transitions with more ease. Nicole also shares her personal journey of discovering Human Design and how it reshaped her understanding of herself and others.
Key Takeaways:
What is Human Design? A self-awareness system combining astrology, chakras, the I Ching, and quantum mechanics.
How Your Energy Type Affects You: Understanding the five main types—Manifestors, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors—and how each one interacts with the world.
How Human Design Can Help During Divorce: Gain clarity on decision-making, emotional processing, and personal empowerment.
Overcoming Conditioning: Many of us have been taught to operate in ways that go against our natural energy flow. Recognizing and embracing our authentic selves can lead to less resistance and more peace.
Profiles & Their Role in Self-Discovery: How your profile numbers (such as 5/1 or 3/5) shape your approach to life, relationships, and personal growth.
Understanding Emotional Authority: Whether you have a defined or undefined emotional center can impact how you process emotions, which is crucial during a divorce or any emotional transition.
Special Offer:
Nicole is offering High Vibe Divorce listeners 20% off a Human Design reading! Use the code HIGHVIBE20 when booking a session on her website.
Connect with Nicole Guena:
Website: NicoleGuena.com
Instagram: @Nicole.Guena
Podcast: Practical Magic
Book a Human Design Reading: Link to schedule
Connect with Melissa & High Vibe Divorce:
Website: High Vibe Divorce
Instagram (Podcast): @HighVibeDivorce
Instagram (Mediation): @HighVibeMediation
Enjoying the Podcast?
If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Also, don’t hesitate to share this episode with a friend who might benefit from learning about Human Design!
Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!

26 - Scarcity vs. Abundance: Shifting Your Mindset for a High Vibe Divorce

Episode Title: 26 - Scarcity vs. Abundance: Shifting Your Mindset for a High Vibe Divorce
🎙️ Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Family Law Mediator & Recovering Divorce Litigator
Episode Summary
Divorce can feel like a time of fear, loss, and uncertainty—but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, Melissa explores how a scarcity mindset in divorce can lead to fear-based decisions, unnecessary conflict, and emotional distress. Instead, she guides listeners toward an abundance mindset, where trust, optimism, and empowerment create a smoother, more positive transition.
You’ll learn how to recognize scarcity thinking, shift your mindset, and approach divorce with greater peace, clarity, and intention. Plus, Melissa shares practical strategies, journal prompts, and mindset exercises to help you make empowered decisions that support your future happiness.
Key Topics Discussed:
✅ Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset in Divorce – How your approach impacts everything from finances to co-parenting.✅ Fear-Based Decision-Making – Signs you may be acting out of fear and how to shift toward empowerment.✅ Reframing Divorce as a Fresh Start – Seeing opportunities instead of losses.✅ Practical Ways to Shift into an Abundance Mindset:
Gratitude practices
Journaling exercises
Intentional decision-making
The Emotional Guidance Scale (Episode 2)
✅ Hiring the Right Support Team – Why choosing a mediator, collaborative attorney, or divorce coach can set you up for success.
Resources & Links:
📌 FREE Emotional Guidance Scale PDF – Download at highvibedivorce.com📌 Divorce Wave App – A mindfulness app for navigating divorce with clarity. Use promo code HIGHVIBE for a special discount! Download here📌 Episode 2: Understanding the Emotional Guidance Scale – Listen now
Journal Prompts:
📝 Reflect on these questions to shift your mindset:
Where am I holding onto a scarcity belief in my divorce?
What is one way I can shift my thinking toward abundance today?
What do I want my post-divorce life to feel like?
Connect with Melissa:
💻 Website: highvibedivorce.com📸 Instagram: @highvibemediation | @highvibedivorce
🎧 If you loved this episode, please subscribe, rate, and review! And don’t forget to share with a friend who needs this message.
✨ Keep the vibes high & the conflict low! ✨

25 - Learn to Surf the Divorce Wave with Founder Tamara Rowles

Episode 25: Learn to Surf the Divorce Wave with Founder Tamara Rowles
Episode Summary:
In this transformative episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa Farag sits down with Tamara Rowles, founder of the Divorce Wave app, to discuss how mindfulness, expert guidance, and emotional tools can help you navigate divorce with grace and resilience. Tamara shares her personal journey through divorce and explains how it inspired her to create an innovative mobile app designed to support individuals at every stage of the divorce process. From managing heated emotions to planning for a brighter future, the Divorce Wave app empowers users to process challenges, reduce conflict, and thrive.
Melissa and Tamara dive into the unique features of the app, including expert-guided “surf lessons” and immersive “waves” to help you respond rather than react in high-conflict situations. The episode also explores how mindfulness practices and a positive vision for the future can lead to a less expensive, less stressful divorce.
Whether you’re exploring divorce, in the thick of it, or recovering post-divorce, this episode will leave you feeling empowered, informed, and ready to tackle the waves ahead.
Featured Guest:
Tamara Rowles, creator of Divorce Wave, attorney, mediator, executive divorce consultant.
Tamara is a licensed attorney and real estate agent, certified mediator, executive divorce coach, creator of Divorce Wave, and the collector of ancient and modern wisdom. She is also a happy and collaborative co-parent and the mother of two amazing children.Why Tamara created the Divorce Wave app: "I created Divorce Wave because it is the soundtrack I wish I had when I was experiencing the loneliness and heartbreak during my own divorce."
Key Topics Covered:
The Birth of the Divorce Wave App
Tamara's personal divorce journey and the gap she saw in the market.
Why Divorce Wave is the app she wished she had during her divorce.
App Features:
Surf Lessons: Expert tips and knowledge for every phase of divorce, from planning to co-parenting.
Waves: Cinematic audio experiences to help process emotions like anger, frustration, and grief.
Mindfulness & Empowerment:
The importance of responding instead of reacting during divorce.
Mindfulness tools to calm your nervous system and build emotional resilience.
Practical Applications:
How Divorce Wave helps you navigate tough conversations, prepare for mediation, and even deal with frustrating attorneys.
Tools for visualizing and building a positive post-divorce future.
Special Offer for Listeners:
Get a full year of Divorce Wave for only $44.99 (less than the cost of an hour with an attorney!).
Use promo code HIGHVIBE to access this special offer.
Link: https://divorcewave.mvt.so/?via=melissa
Notable Quotes:
Melissa: “Being high vibe doesn’t mean bypassing the negative. You have to work through the grief to build a brighter future.”
Tamara: “The goal is to harness your mind to focus on a positive vision for your future. Just small shifts can create huge changes in your divorce journey.”
Resources & Links:
Divorce Wave App:
Special Offer: $44.99/year with code HIGHVIBE
Download DivorceWave Here
Follow Divorce Wave:
Instagram: @DivorceWave
Website: DivorceWave.com
Connect with Melissa Farag:
Website: High Vibe Divorce Website
Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce
Call to Action:
If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share it with a friend who might need support during their divorce journey. Together, let’s keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

24 - Men's Guide to Divorce: Wisdom, Healing, and Growth with Jeff Kolez

Show Notes for Episode 24: "Men's Guide to Divorce: Wisdom, Healing, and Growth with Jeff Kolez"
Welcome to Episode 24 of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast, hosted by Melissa Wheeler Farag. In this transformative episode, Melissa sits down with Jeff Kolez, Divorce Recovery Coach and founder of DivorceDaddy.com, to discuss men's unique challenges and opportunities during and after divorce. With practical advice, deep insights, and a compassionate approach, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand or support men navigating divorce.
Episode Highlights:
Opening Affirmation: Melissa begins with an affirmation from Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie deck: “I cannot control the world, but I can control how I choose to perceive it.” This affirmation sets the tone for the episode, emphasizing personal responsibility and perspective.
Meet Jeff Kolez, Divorce Recovery Coach:
Jeff shares his personal journey through a difficult divorce 13 years ago and how it inspired him to create DivorceDaddy.com, a resource and coaching service for men.
He discusses his mission to help fathers rebuild their lives, find emotional healing, and step into their role as intentional, authentic parents.
Jeff’s Tenets of Divorce: Jeff’s wisdom for men includes actionable principles, such as:
Divorce is war, but the war is within ourselves.
Put your own oxygen mask on first.
Winning at divorce happens outside the courtroom.
Take full responsibility for everything happening in your life.
The crop a relationship bears is more than children; it grows men, women, and societies.
A father’s presence in his children’s lives is objectively beneficial.
Find the gift in your divorce and use it to grow.
The Importance of Emotional Work for Men:
Jeff highlights the value of emotional distance, awareness, and reconnecting with the heart.
He introduces the concept of "gray rocking" to manage high-conflict dynamics with an ex-spouse.
Men’s Emotional Experience:
Melissa and Jeff discuss how societal norms often discourage men from expressing vulnerability, leading to anger and other misunderstood emotions.
They explore how men can embrace the emotional and spiritual growth opportunities that divorce presents.
The Role of Fathers Post-Divorce:
Jeff shares compelling statistics on the positive impact of fathers in their children’s lives.
He encourages men to use the time away from their children to live inspiring lives and to document their love and presence through messages or videos.
Practical Steps for Healing: Jeff outlines a five-step process to help men rebuild after divorce:
Create emotional distance.
Develop emotional awareness.
Take full responsibility for your actions and choices.
Reconnect with the heart through presence, nature, and movement.
Take action to design and build your future.
Key Takeaways:
Divorce is not the end—it’s an opportunity for transformation and growth.
Fathers are essential to their children’s well-being and must actively participate in their lives.
Healing from divorce requires a balance of emotional work, personal responsibility, and proactive planning.
About Jeff Kolez:
Jeff Kolez is a divorce coach and founder of DivorceDaddy.com. Through his work, Jeff empowers men to navigate the challenges of divorce, rebuild their lives, and become the best version of themselves for their children and society.
Jeff's bio (in his own words): My name is Jeff. I’m awake now. For a long time I lived in a fog. Those were dark days.A toxic marriage turned into an even worse divorce, throwing me into a fight I wasn’t prepared for. I lost. A lot.I was slandered. I left my home with nothing but the clothes on my back.I was trying to face a heart problem with my head, which is why life didn’t make sense.Once I understood that, I had a choice. I could either become a victim or learn how to win.I chose to win.Now, I have a great relationship, a strong bond with my kids, and I’m living my purpose. I’m building a legacy and embracing the grand adventure of life.I created Divorce Daddy to help others follow the same path.
Connect with Jeff:
Website: Divorce-Daddy.com
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jeffkolez
Instagram: @rebuildwithdivorcedaddy
About Melissa Wheeler-Farag:
Melissa is a family law mediator and host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Through her mediation practice and podcast, she helps individuals turn divorce into an empowering and transformative experience.
Connect with Melissa:
Website: HighVibeMediation.com
Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce
Call to Action:
If you found this episode helpful, please:
Subscribe to the High Vibe Divorce Podcast on your favorite platform.
Leave a review to help others discover the show.
Share this episode with a friend or loved one who might benefit from it.
Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low!