High Vibe Divorce

Episode 53: Redefining Family: Two Divorced Attorneys on Co-Parenting, Mediation, and Regulating Through Divorce
What if divorce didn’t have to mean the destruction of your family—but instead became an opportunity to redefine it?
In Episode 53 of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with Rebecca Tierney and Chris Koepsel, co-founders of Redefining Family—two attorneys turned mediators, divorce coaches, and co-parenting coaches with a uniquely personal perspective on divorce: they were once married to each other.
After meeting in law school, building careers in Big Law, getting married, having two children, and eventually divorcing, Rebecca and Chris had to figure out how to restructure their own family. Nearly eight years after their divorce, they now co-parent their two children—and even run a divorce practice together.
Their story is a powerful example of what can happen when former spouses move beyond the traditional idea of what a family is supposed to look like and instead focus on becoming allies for their children. As Rebecca explains, their marriage may have ended, but over time they developed a different kind of trust that ultimately allowed them to build Redefining Family together.
In This Episode
Melissa, Rebecca, and Chris discuss:
Divorce as a restructuring rather than an ending. Chris brings his transactional legal background to divorce and compares the process to a restructuring: when children are involved, the family still needs to function, but under a new structure and a new partnership.
Why litigation can damage long-term co-parenting relationships and how mediation can create space for more holistic, human-centered problem solving.
Moving from Big Law to divorce work. Rebecca and Chris share how their backgrounds in complex litigation, transactional work, and corporate law inform the way they now help individuals and families.
The grief and identity loss that accompany divorce. Divorce can involve grieving not only the marriage, but the future you imagined, your identity within the relationship, and the family structure you thought would always exist.
Their own “kitchen table” divorce. Rebecca and Chris largely created their own settlement agreement, divided their assets, and developed a parenting plan together—with a little professional assistance along the way.
Why detailed parenting plans actually create more freedom. A specific agreement can serve as scaffolding during the early years after separation. As trust develops, parents can choose to deviate from it—but clarity helps reduce unnecessary conflict when disagreements arise.
How parenting schedules can evolve as children grow. Rebecca and Chris started with a 2-2-3 schedule when their children were young and later transitioned to a 2-2-5-5 schedule that gave both the parents and children greater consistency.
Why co-parenting can sometimes make you a more present parent. Chris shares how having his children 50% of the time allows him to be intentional and fully engaged during his parenting time while also having time to recharge.
Gender roles and invisible labor. Rebecca and Chris candidly discuss the division of labor during their marriage and how divorce required each of them to develop skills and assume responsibilities that previously belonged to the other spouse.
The “leading spouse” and the “lagging spouse.” The person who initiated the divorce may be emotionally and practically much further ahead. Chris explains why the leading spouse may need to offer grace while the lagging spouse catches up—and why both spouses may need to learn skills previously handled by the other.
Helping parents step into new roles after divorce. A parent who was less involved during the marriage may need time and support to develop parenting skills, while the former primary caregiver may need to learn how to relinquish control.
Divorce as an opportunity for men to redefine themselves. Chris discusses the lack of models and community for divorced fathers and how divorce can force men to ask important questions about identity, values, relationships, and the kind of father they want to become.
How family-of-origin conditioning shows up in divorce negotiations. From who “should” pay health insurance to assumptions about caregiving and financial responsibility, unconscious beliefs inherited from our families can unexpectedly drive conflict.
Regulating your nervous system before making major divorce decisions. When someone is dysregulated, even basic questions—Have you eaten? Have you slept? What is happening in your body?—can be important before trying to negotiate or problem-solve.
Simple wellness practices during divorce. Rebecca recommends something accessible and achievable: walking for 30 minutes. Movement, time outdoors, and a small daily routine can provide a sense of accomplishment when everything else feels overwhelming.
The importance of community during divorce, particularly for men. Divorce can be profoundly isolating, and sometimes support comes from unexpected people who have been through it themselves.
A Different Way to Think About Divorce
One of the biggest themes of this conversation is acceptance and non-attachment.
Divorce changes roles. It changes relationships. It changes family structures. Trying to hold tightly to the way things used to be can create even more suffering.
As Melissa shares at the beginning of the episode:
“Let go of attachment and remember that everything is unfolding perfectly.” — Ram Dass
Rebecca and Chris could not have predicted that they would go from law school classmates, to romantic partners, to spouses and parents, to divorced co-parents—and eventually to business partners helping other families navigate divorce.
Their story is a reminder that you may not know what your family will look like on the other side of divorce. Different does not necessarily mean worse. Something meaningful can emerge from a chapter that initially feels like an ending.
About Rebecca Tierney & Chris Koepsel
Rebecca and Chris are the co-founders of Redefining Family, where they help individuals and couples navigate divorce and co-parenting outside of traditional litigation.
They offer decision coaching, divorce coaching, and co-parenting coaching nationwide. Because they are licensed California attorneys, they also provide mediation and limited-scope legal services in California, including preparation of marital settlement agreements, parenting plans, and related divorce documents.
Their Integrated Divorce Method supports clients from the earliest stages of considering divorce through education, coaching, co-parenting support, nervous-system and attachment education, and ultimately mediation. They also work with individuals who already have divorce attorneys and want additional coaching and co-parenting support.
Connect with Redefining Family
Website: redefiningfamily.comInstagram & Social Media: @RedefiningFamilyLAEmail: chris@redefiningfamily.com | rebecca@redefiningfamily.com
A free 30-minute consultation with Rebecca or Chris can be scheduled through their website.
About High Vibe Divorce
High Vibe Divorce is hosted by Melissa Wheeler Farag, family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator. The podcast explores divorce through a different lens—one that recognizes that divorce can be painful, messy, and deeply challenging while also creating an opportunity for transformation.
Divorce isn't a failure, and your life isn't over. In fact, it may just be beginning.
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Episode 52: Embrace Change and GROW with Ryah Arthur
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What if one of the most powerful ways to navigate divorce isn’t through thinking—but through movement, community, and daily self-commitment?
In this episode, Melissa sits down with Laguna Beach-based trainer and former professional surfer Ryah Arthur to explore how physical wellness, accountability, and aligned habits can become a foundation for healing and transformation during life’s most challenging transitions.
From outdoor community workouts to his 90-day GROW program, Ryah shares how small, consistent actions—hydration, sleep, nutrition, movement, and stress regulation—can radically shift your mental, emotional, and physical state. Together, they discuss why getting “out of your head and into your body” is essential during divorce, and how building discipline and self-trust creates real resilience.
Today’s Affirmation
“I use the creative power of my personal vibration. I speak it into being.”
About Today’s Guest: Ryah Arthur
Ryah Arthur is a wellness coach, trainer, and former professional surfer based in Laguna Beach, California. With deep roots in the local community, he leads outdoor, functional fitness classes focused on breathwork, mobility, and strength.
He is the creator of the GROW program, a 90-day holistic lifestyle program designed to help individuals optimize their health, reduce stress, and align their habits with their highest vision for their lives.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Why community-based movement can be a game changer during divorce
How physical activity helps you shift from mental overwhelm to grounded presence
The six foundational movement patterns every body needs (and how to start simply)
Why discipline = self-love (and how to build it in small, sustainable ways)
The role of accountability in creating lasting change
How stress (emotional, physical, mental) impacts your body—and how to regulate it
Why focusing only on your problems keeps you stuck—and what to do instead
How to define your “dream” and use it as a guiding force for transformation
The power of daily wins in building resilience and confidence
Inside the GROW Program
Ryah’s 90-day GROW program is a holistic approach to wellness that adapts to each individual’s life and stress level.
Participants focus on:
Hydration (customized, not one-size-fits-all)
Nutrition and whole foods
Sleep optimization
Movement and functional strength
Breathwork and stress regulation
Mindset and vision (“the dream”)
Program features include:
Daily accountability check-ins via video app
Bi-monthly Zoom sessions with deep dives into key topics
Optional in-person meetups (for local participants)
Partner work for deeper connection and support
A strong, supportive community environment
The goal isn’t perfection—it’s sustainable transformation.
Key Takeaways
You don’t need to overhaul your life—start with small, consistent actions
Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—community accelerates growth
Getting physically stronger helps you become emotionally resilient
You can’t control everything in divorce—but you can control how you care for yourself
A compelling vision for your future is more powerful than reacting to crisis
Melissa’s Perspective
This episode highlights a powerful truth: divorce is not just a legal process—it’s a full-body, full-life transformation.
Programs like GROW offer an alternative to staying stuck in the stress and analysis of divorce by helping you:
Reconnect with your body
Build supportive relationships
Take aligned, forward-moving action
Connect with Ryah Arthur
Website: ryaharthur.com
Instagram: @ryaharthur
Resources & Links
High Vibe Mediation: highvibemediation.com
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @highvibedivorce
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Episode 51: Financially-Savvy Divorce: Expert Insight from Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA
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Divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when the financial side is unclear, emotionally charged, or being used as a source of leverage. In this episode, Melissa sits down with returning guest Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, family financial mediator, and founder of Divorce Analytics, for a practical and empowering conversation about how to become more financially savvy during divorce.
Victoria shares how her own experience navigating a high-conflict, financially entangled divorce inspired her to create tools that help others approach divorce with more clarity, strategy, and confidence. Together, Melissa and Victoria break down key California divorce concepts, including spousal support, Family Code section 4320 factors, budgets, marital standard of living, earning capacity, taxes, imputation of income, lump-sum buyouts, and present value discounts.
They also explore a critical question many people face early on: Is mediation appropriate for everyone? Melissa and Victoria discuss when mediation can be powerful, when it can become a delay tactic, and what red flags may signal that a more structured legal process is necessary.
This episode is packed with guidance for anyone who wants to walk into divorce mediation, negotiation, or litigation feeling more informed, more grounded, and more empowered.
Today’s affirmation
“The way through is you. I have the courage to go within and work my way through.”
Melissa reflects on how this affirmation applies so powerfully to divorce finances. Even with expert support, you are still the person making the decisions about your future. The more you understand your options, priorities, and financial realities, the more empowered you become.
In this episode, we discuss:
Victoria’s role as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and family financial mediator
Why defining the financial variables clearly is essential for productive divorce negotiations
The value of a global settlement proposal instead of handling divorce issues piecemeal
The difference between temporary spousal support and permanent spousal support in California
How Family Code section 4320 factors shape spousal support analysis
Why marital standard of living is often misunderstood
The importance of analyzing budgets, taxes, earning capacity, savings, and investments
What income imputation means and when it comes into play
How lump-sum spousal support buyouts work
What present value means and why discounts are often applied in lump-sum negotiations
Why mediation is not always the best fit for every couple
Red flags that may suggest mediation is likely to fail or be used as a delay tactic
Why documentation, data, and the right divorce team can reduce anxiety and improve outcomes
How divorce coaches, therapists, attorneys, and CDFAs can help support a more empowered process
Key takeaways
Victoria emphasizes that one of the biggest mistakes people make in divorce is trying to negotiate without clearly defining the numbers. Estimates, assumptions, and vague language often create confusion, mistrust, and stalled negotiations. Solid financial analysis helps both spouses understand what is actually on the table.
Melissa and Victoria also discuss how support issues are rarely as simple as a single calculator result. Spousal support discussions often require a much deeper look at lifestyle, actual need, cash flow, future earning ability, and the long-term impact of asset division.
Another major theme in this episode is that mediation works best when both people are genuinely capable of participating in good faith. While mediation can be transformative and efficient, it is not always appropriate in cases involving coercion, extreme delay tactics, abuse, or entrenched high-conflict dynamics.
Most of all, this episode is a reminder that divorce is not just a legal process. It is also a financial and emotional transition. Getting informed, building the right support team, and understanding the facts can help you move through it with much more confidence.
About today’s guest
Victoria Kirilloff is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), family financial mediator, and founder of Divorce Analytics. After navigating her own high-conflict divorce, Victoria used her background in financial analysis to create the first global settlement proposal and divorce report that helped bring clarity and resolution to her situation.
Today, she helps clients and professionals make the financial side of divorce more transparent, strategic, and productive through documentation, data, and practical financial insight. Victoria believes divorce does not have to be purely destructive and that with the right support, it can become a transformative turning point.
Connect with Victoria Kirilloff
Website: DivorceAnalytics.com
Victoria also offers consultations and shares educational insights through her newsletter.
Connect with Melissa
Visit highvibemediation.com to learn more about Melissa’s mediation services.
You can also connect with Melissa on Instagram through her mediation and podcast pages, both linked in the show notes.
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In this 50th episode Melissa Farag interviews Katie Padilla of Bloom Family Law about moving away from adversarial litigation toward mediation, legal consulting, flat-fee packages, divorce coaching, and restorative retreats focused on nervous-system regulation and value mining.
They offer practical guidance for people considering divorce: begin with emotional support, choose trusted guides carefully, spend limited resources intentionally, and prioritize processes that protect long-term wellbeing and healthier co-parenting.
Episode 50 - Finding Growth in Divorce: Insights from Attorney Katie Padilla of Bloom Family Law
High Vibe Divorce Podcast — Show Notes
Episode Snapshot
Episode 50 is a milestone—and a reminder that divorce doesn’t have to be a purely adversarial, low-vibration experience. Melissa sits down with Katie Padilla (founder of Bloom Family Law in Oakland), an attorney-mediator-collaborative professional who intentionally stepped away from litigation to support families entirely out of court. Together, they explore divorce as an “underworld initiation”—a sacred rite of passage that can crack you open, help you value-mine the hard parts, and guide you toward a more intentional next chapter.
This conversation is also a practical reality check: who you listen to (friends, family, professionals) matters. Your nervous system matters. And the way you choose to move through the fire shapes your future—especially if you’ll be co-parenting.
Today’s Affirmation
“Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”— Napoleon Hill
Melissa and Katie connect this to “value mining”: finding the benefit—even if you can’t see it yet—and using journaling, reflection, and support to discover the growth on the other side.
In This Episode, Melissa and Katie Talk About…
1) Divorce as an initiation (and why it can be transformational)
Katie reframes divorce as a sacred transition—an opportunity to look inward, interrupt old patterns, and ask:
What do I want out of this life now?
What matters most to me?
What do I want to stop repeating?
Melissa connects this to grief work and “ego death”: the loss of identity and reality can be destabilizing, but also deeply catalytic.
2) Why Bloom Family Law no longer litigates
Katie shares the “why” behind leaving court:
Litigation can amplify blame, defensiveness, and shame
Judges don’t know your family and often have limited time
People can “win” legally and still feel depleted, empty, or harmed
Court is public, and the process can be humiliating and escalatory
They both name what many people sense: even when big emotions show up in mediation, it can still feel like progress—because there’s room for humanity, nuance, and forward motion.
3) Surrender doesn’t mean weakness
A key theme: accepting what is without collapsing your boundaries.Surrender = choosing battles wisely, staying grounded, and moving with integrity—not “giving in.”
Katie emphasizes doing things in a way your body can feel proud of later:
What does integrity mean to you?
How do you want to show up in the fire?
What do you want to be able to say about yourself afterward?
4) How Bloom Family Law supports clients (out-of-court + whole-person support)
Katie outlines Bloom’s approach:
Collaborative divorce (out of court)
Mediation and mediation-focused resolution
Consulting for people negotiating directly or working with a neutral mediator
Legal consulting + coaching bundled into a flat-fee model
Access to pre-vetted divorce coaches through Bloom
The thread running through it all: support the whole person—not just the legal problem.
5) “Be intentional about your audience”
Katie offers a simple but powerful practice: not everyone gets a front-row seat to your divorce.They discuss how well-meaning friends and family can unintentionally project, escalate, or dysregulate you—and why discernment is everything right now.
A gut-check they share:
Do you feel supported after talking to this person—or drained?
Are they regulated—or emotionally fanning flames?
Are they advising from wisdom—or from their own unresolved stuff?
6) The uncomfortable truth about litigation incentives
Melissa breaks down the reality of billable-hour family law and why clients must ask better questions before hiring counsel. They discuss how easy it is for fear and anger to steer the ship—and how quickly costs can balloon without creating real resolution.
Takeaway: Interview professionals like your peace depends on it—because it does.
7) Start with regulation + support: why a divorce coach can be the best first hire
Katie shares a stat she’s seen: many people retain the first attorney who calls them back—often from a dysregulated, urgent state.
They discuss why beginning with a therapist and/or divorce coach can help you:
calm the nervous system
clarify goals
learn what questions to ask
choose the right team (legal, financial, coaching)
spend limited resources more intentionally
Katie calls divorce coaches “divorce doulas”—guides who help you move through the process with steadiness and intention.
8) Retreats: creating a healing container during divorce
Katie shares Bloom’s retreat vision, beginning with a retreat at Mount Madonna Institute, featuring:
nervous system regulation support
somatic tools
yoga therapy elements
coaching exercises including value mining
Their shared belief: stepping into a safe, intentional space—especially when shame and isolation are high—can be profoundly healing.
Listener Takeaways
Divorce is hard—but it doesn’t have to destroy you.
Regulation, support, and discernment can change everything.
The way you move through divorce shapes your future identity, health, and co-parenting relationship.
Choose guides you trust. Choose advice you’d actually want to live by.
About Today’s Guest: Katie Padilla
Katie Padilla is an attorney, mediator, and collaborative professional—and the founder of Bloom Family Law in Oakland, California. Bloom supports clients entirely out of court, focusing on mediation, consulting, and innovative flat-fee legal + coaching support to help people move through divorce with intention, integrity, and whole-person care.
Find Katie / Bloom:
Bloom Family Law and Bloom Legal Coach
Bloom Family Law Instagram
Connect with Melissa / High Vibe Divorce
Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, helping clients move through divorce in a more mindful, respectful, and empowering way.
Find Melissa / High Vibe Mediation:
High Vibe Mediation
High Vibe Divorce Instagram
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Episode 49 - Divorce and Home Ownership: Expert Tips with Karla Kyte, CDLP
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Keeping the house after divorce can feel like the “obvious” choice—until lending rules, buyouts, support income, and loan terms collide. In this episode, Melissa sits down with Karla Kyte (Certified Divorce Lending Professional) to unpack the real-world mortgage hurdles that derail well-intentioned settlement agreements, especially in a higher-rate environment. Karla explains the critical differences between refinance vs. assumption vs. release of liability, how support and employment income are treated for qualifying, and why asking the right questions (to the right department) can save clients from losing options that disappear once the judgment is signed.
Today’s affirmation
“We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us.”— from the Letting Go Deck (and Letting Go book) by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
About today’s guest: Karla Kyte, CDLP
Karla Kyte of My Divorce Mortgage Planning is a divorce mortgage planning expert with nearly 30 years in lending. She supports divorcing homeowners (and the professionals guiding them) to ensure housing decisions made during divorce actually work when it’s time to qualify—before it’s too late to change course. Karla’s specialty includes the issues that most often trip people up: buyouts, refinances, assumptions, release of liability, support income, self-employment, and debt/income allocation. She’s based in Denver, Colorado, and works nationwide.
What we cover
Why “I can afford the payment” isn’t the same as “I can qualify to keep the house”
The Tetris of divorce terms: legal language, tax concerns, and lending guidelines have to align
Refinance basics (and why it often means losing the low rate)
The difference between a cash-out refi and a buyout refinance (and why the distinction matters)
Assumption vs. release of liability: what’s actually possible, and when
Why calling the wrong department can get you a flat “no” that isn’t the full story
Support income rules: what qualifies, how long it must be received, and why documentation + timing matter
Why cash support payments can wreck mortgage qualification
Return-to-work income: full-time vs. part-time and what lenders typically require
Self-employment: why divorce “income for support” can look nothing like “income for lending”
A creative (and risky) option: Garn-St. Germain protections and continuing to pay an existing mortgage post-divorce (when the other spouse stays on the loan)
Key takeaways (save these if you’re navigating divorce + a house)
Don’t assume your lender—or your lawyer—knows every option. Mortgage rules are technical, and divorce adds extra layers.
If you’re exploring an assumption or release of liability, you must speak to the loan servicing department (not general customer service).
For many loans, assumability is limited—but in divorce, some servicers may allow a release of liability even when the spouse wasn’t originally on the mortgage (often at servicer discretion).
Support income may be usable for qualification only if it’s court-ordered, paid consistently, and properly documented (and it must generally be expected to continue long enough).
Never pay support in cash if the recipient needs it to qualify—paper trail matters.
Part-time income can be hard to use without the right history/guarantees; full-time income is usually easier to re-establish for lending.
For self-employed borrowers, “income” in divorce calculations can be wildly different from what underwriters can count—plan early, because changing tax strategy often takes time.
Notable moments / mic-drop reminders
“Ask the right question to the right department—or you could lose a huge opportunity.”
“A settlement term can be perfectly legal—and still not lendable.”
“Paper trail is everything when support income is part of qualification.”
Resources mentioned
Letting Go (book) + Letting Go Deck — David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
Karla’s website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com
Mentioned concept: Garn-St. Germain (due-on-sale protections in specific transfer situations, including divorce)
Connect with Karla Kyte
Website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com
Find her by name: Karla Kyte on TikTok / Instagram 
Connect with Melissa / High Vibe Divorce
Podcast + DMs: @highvibedivorce
Mediation: @highvibemediation
Website: highvibemediation.com
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Friendly disclaimer
This episode is educational and not legal, tax, or financial advice. Mortgage and divorce rules vary by situation—consult the appropriate professionals for guidance specific to your case.

Episode 48: Reiki Energy + Financial Empowerment During Divorce (with Heather Reeves, CDFA)
Episode snapshot
In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with returning guest (and friend) Heather Reeves—a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)—for a conversation that blends energy healing with practical money strategy. Together, they explore how Reiki can help regulate the nervous system during divorce, and why emotional steadiness is often the missing link to making smart financial decisions.
Today’s opening affirmation
“As we relinquish the negative suppressed feelings from all the programs we have internalized, they’re automatically replaced by higher ones… When our inner feelings are peacefulness, serenity, tranquility, stillness, openness, and simplicity, the effect on others is to increase their awareness… and to give them a greater sense of freedom, perfection, unity, and at oneness with ourselves.”
What you’ll hear in this episode
What Reiki is (and why it’s not as “woo woo” as people think)
Heather’s story: finding Reiki during her divorce and feeling immediate relief
Reiki as universal life force energy + how a Reiki Master acts as a channel
Why divorce dysregulation (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) can make people avoid finances entirely
How Reiki can support:
stress + anxiety reduction
physical pain relief
emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual healing
The 5 Reiki principles and how they apply to divorce (including being kind to yourself—and yes, even your ex)
In-person vs remote Reiki (and what a session actually feels like)
Why “I just want to be done” can be a red flag when it’s coming from fear
The confidence shift: moving from fear → neutral → informed → decisive
How Heather blends her CDFA work with nervous system support—so clients can think clearly about money
Why a CDFA + mediator can be a cost-effective team versus litigation + forensic accounting (when appropriate)
The importance of budgets, disclosures, and not double-counting expenses
Special note: why finances can be extra nuanced when one spouse is self-employed
A local Orange County wellness event announcement featuring Reiki, breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath
Powerful takeaways
You don’t need to be “spiritual” to benefit from Reiki—what matters is willingness and consent.
If you’re dysregulated, it’s harder to:
read documents
engage in discovery
negotiate fairly
understand options
advocate for yourself
Financial empowerment in divorce isn’t about power over your spouse—it’s power from within.
The divorce process is often a business unwinding, and calming your nervous system can help you participate instead of freeze.
Reiki 101 (quick explainer)
Reiki = “universal life force energy.”A Reiki Master doesn’t “take” your energy or force anything—Heather describes it as intelligent energy that flows where it’s needed. Sessions can be hands-on or hands-off, and can be done remotely with similar impact.
What you might experience:
deep relaxation (many people fall asleep)
tingling sensations
seeing colors/lights behind closed eyes
emotional release
increased clarity in the days after (journal + notice dreams/insights)
Heather’s beginner suggestion:Try once a week for 4 weeks to feel the shift and allow time for integration.
Event mention
Heather shares an upcoming women’s wellness event focused on alignment:
Date: March 8, 2026
Location: Costa Mesa, CA (at Enjoy Yoga)
Modalities offered: Reiki (Heather), breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath
About Heather Reeves
Heather is a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). She supports clients through the financial realities of divorce—budgeting, strategy, proposal analysis, tax implications, and long-term planning—while also integrating tools that help clients stay regulated and grounded during an emotionally charged process.
Resources & links (for show notes)
Melissa / High Vibe Divorce + High Vibe Mediation: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce https://www.highvibemediation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/highvibemediation/ 
Heather Reeves: https://www.coachingwithorigin.com/ https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithorigin/ 
Event info: (add registration link once posted)
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